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Okay what I said ONLY should apply to married and co-habitating couples

People who date for fun (without the goal of marriage or co-habitation) are on consistent "Easy mode" because they aren't working towards deeper commitment

Everyone else=Hard mode! ! !

Except not all couples decide to get married. It doesn’t mean their relationship, however it’s defined by them, is merely a “tutorial.”

There are lots of possibilities. Couples can be serious and committed to each other without any intention to marry or cohabit. It doesn’t mean they are on “easy mode.” If one of them gets seriously sick or grapples with loss or whatever life might throw at them, it’s likely going to be hard. It can be incredibly difficult seeing someone you love suffering. It’s not always easy to navigate challenging situations as a couple whether you live together or not.

I think relationships and feelings are too complex to describe in simplistic ways because there’s a lot of variation in terms of internal and external human experience.

Spending a day with a married couple wouldn’t tell you much about what being married to David would be like. Every relationship is different, and it’s really hard to tell what things are truly like for couples day in and day out.

That’s where dating for a long time and, perhaps, living together before marriage could be useful.

Does he want to cohabit when you’re married? If so, why does he think he’d like that more?