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Hee hai hoi
im new here and I want to tell my story
ADHD+autism

Im 33, from an age of 5 I competed at the highest level in sport (olympics etc..)
Ive always thought that this high level of sport restricted my social skills and interest that I didn't develop them cause of training every day. my whole life I had the same ritme with eat sleep train repeat and now that's gone I have no idea what or how I should find some new interest and new community and more important work, cause yeah that's the one thing I hear all the time "work is a social norm and is something everybody has t do". I Just got diagnosed, they said that nobody noticed my autism cause of my sports and the ritme I created, but now I start realizing that its not the sport but my brain that is wired differently, why can't I have normal conversations without being anxious and can't find connections . I don't really have friends who understand, I feel quit alone and helpless.

hopefully you can give me some advice or tips how to make community or find special interest. I only want to surf everyday all day, but im dutch so no surf here which is really frustrating me.

Baurtism, Welcome to Wrong Planet.

I am not sure that I can provide you with useful information because I have the opposite traits. I am very poor in sports. But I will try.

Everyone has pluses and minuses. They are good at some things and poor at others. You have a natural talent towards sports, so this is your strengths. You can use your special abilities to make friends, meet people, earn a living, become the best you can be.

Many people who excel in sports find a career field in becoming sport teachers in schools. They teach their skills to others, to young people or middle age people to become champions in the sport world. Teach the next generation your skills.

Many years ago, we had a foreign exchange student live with us. She was at the end of high school in a country on the opposite side of the world and we took her in for a year. She had spent her entire life learning to become an expert in a sport. But now she was unable to advance any further. So even though she was almost an adult, she was very much like a young child. We showed her how to blend into society. After she left us she went back to her world and she became a medical doctor. She found her way back.

So I think that you may succeed by using your skills to blend back into society.

thank you for you response,
ive been giving personal training and teaching, but it seems that the interaction with the clients is giving me a lot of anxiety and its a job which involves a lot of interaction with the people. I kinda do like the sport side of it, but not the conversational part. how do you find new interest ? I struggle the most with conflict, I have a lot of ideas(scenarios) but at the same moment a hard" Mehh I don't like that" like a 10 year old child. its annoying for my self and others.

O.K. Let me try and explain this. I am two people. I live two very different lives. I try and be the best I can be at each of my lives. I would work a job. But this allowed me to Be Me.

When I was a young man over 50 years ago, I decided I would like to learn to swim underwater. I lived along the ocean at the time and I took a class in scuba diving. It was a two week class. At the end of the two weeks we went 20 miles off shore and I swam underwater, deep underwater, 30 feet underwater for a half an hour. It was interesting. I became a fish. I learned how to swim with flippers.

Now I am 76 years old and I can still swim a mile. I just go to the YMCA pool and put on my flippers and swim, swim, swim.
It turns out swimming is a very good form of exercise and keeps me healthy, even at age 76.

So when I decided a couple years ago to take up swimming in a pool again, I went down to a small scuba diving store and talked to the owners. They were glad to provide me with the best flippers. Flippers had become better designed over the years. They were glad to sell me a set. It was interesting because I now lived over a thousand miles from the ocean, but even in this remote location there was a store that provided scuba outfits.

They lived a very interesting life. They would teach scuba diving to your adults, then they would plan trips across the different regions of the globe and take their students on adventures all over the world. So essentially they turned their unique skills into a business where they traveled the globe and experienced adventures.

So understand that you lead two lives. One is your work life and one is your own play life. You are two separate people. Become the best in two different worlds.

Sea Wing Nova

Welcome aboard the WP express Baurtism.

Welcome!

Yes, it is hard to socialize for work.
But, your hard work to gain expertise should give you a measure of respect which should make it easier.
I think it will get easier if you put in the effort to helping your students.

I saved a lot of money and was able to retire at 59!
I am still in good health and can play golf!

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Welcome to WP! (I would've welcomed you sooner but I was off-planet.)

And, from what little I know about you I suspect you have a lot of potential, not just in sports.

I recommend you think about different paths you could try, figure out how to sample them, and see how it works out.