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20 Nov 2024, 5:33 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
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yeah, due to lack of intimacy, i refuse to call my last partner an ex-GF, i will never understand why someone will agree to have some sort of relationship with someone, go on dates with them, hang out with them, cuddle and kiss them, but not want to do anything below the pants, i will never understand that.


So, you seem to be admitting that there was intimacy, just not of the type you were hoping for.


That doesn't count as intimacy to me


I guess we're just ignoring what intimacy means and redefining it to mean getting your dick wet.

There's nothing wrong with wanting sex, but it doesn't mean all intimacy that doesn't result in sex isn't intimacy.


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20 Nov 2024, 6:09 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
I guess we're just ignoring what intimacy means and redefining it to mean getting your dick wet.

There's nothing wrong with wanting sex, but it doesn't mean all intimacy that doesn't result in sex isn't intimacy


Yeah, kissing and touching are also forms of intimacy!! !

Intimacy shouldn't be defined as only sex or penetration!



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20 Nov 2024, 6:14 pm

There’s emotional intimacy, too, which involves sharing thoughts, feelings, and experiences - stuff that you wouldn’t necessarily share with other people.



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21 Nov 2024, 2:42 am

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There’s emotional intimacy, too, which involves sharing thoughts, feelings, and experiences - stuff that you wouldn’t necessarily share with other people.


That's true!

David and I have gotten to the point of emotional intimacy...which can lead to physical intimacy!! ! :heart: :heart: :heart:



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23 Nov 2024, 12:38 am

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
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There’s emotional intimacy, too, which involves sharing thoughts, feelings, and experiences - stuff that you wouldn’t necessarily share with other people.


That's true!

David and I have gotten to the point of emotional intimacy...which can lead to physical intimacy!! ! :heart: :heart: :heart:


well that didn't happen in my last relationship, the physical part, makes me angry that it didn't happen.



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09 Dec 2024, 9:03 pm

as long she doesn't have issues or problems with sex/intimacy, then we are all good



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09 Dec 2024, 9:19 pm

So you only care about the sex part? Just a genuine question.



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11 Dec 2024, 3:25 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:
So you only care about the sex part? Just a genuine question.


well sex is a normal expected part of a relationship



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01 Jan 2025, 1:39 pm

I did have a relationship with another aspie. It did not end well.
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My current and longest-lasting relationship is with a fellow autistic person.


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