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30 Dec 2024, 6:03 am

I feel like 28 is kind of a weird age, not necessarily old but not necessarily young either. I noticed this at a family Christmas dinner that I attended. There was a bunch of teenagers and adults ranging from 35-75 but not anyone in their late 20's.

Another thing I've noticed now that I'm approaching 30 is that older people around me (family, friends, coworkers) are becoming increasingly more impatient with me because of my precived lack of success in life or having not gotten "it" whatever it may be.

I am running into more and more judgment and unsolicited advice from people also. I had anticipated this happening later in life but I wasn't prepared for the switch to real adulthood 30+. Unfortunately us Aspies have a tendency to be late bloomers, so I wouldn't be surprised if it takes me until 40 to become financially stable and more or less independent. Although, a lot of NT’s are are in the same boat and looking at approaching financial stability in their late 30's / early 40's also, so I guess I shouldn't beat myself up that much.

Unfortunately, the older generations (Boomers and Gen X) don't understand the plight of Millennial's and Gen Z. The older generations think that the 18-35 crowd is just lazy, and that they should just work harder if things get more expensive. I'm sorry grandpa boomer the math doesn't work out the average young person makes about 30-50k a year and a the cheapest studio apartment is 500k. I can't even afford to rent because a one bedroom suite is 2000+ a month around here.

Anyway, that's my rant about being 28. Feel free to write your thoughts down below.



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02 Jan 2025, 8:42 am

Absolutely true.


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02 Jan 2025, 7:09 pm

Canadian Freedom Lover wrote:
28 is a weird age
Only if you were Amy Winehouse, Brian Jones, Kurt Cobain, Jimi Hendrix, Janis Joplin, Jim Morrison, et cetera.

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02 Jan 2025, 8:28 pm

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carly_Rae_Jepsen

Carly became a "one hit wonder" at the age of 27 in 2012!
Call Me Maybe has 1.6Billion hits on Youtube!

Before that she came in 3rd in Canadian Idol.



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02 Jan 2025, 10:01 pm

BTDT wrote:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carly_Rae_Jepsen

Carly became a "one hit wonder" at the age of 27 in 2012!
Call Me Maybe has 1.6Billion hits on Youtube!

Before that she came in 3rd in Canadian Idol.


If I never hear that song again it will be too soon.



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02 Jan 2025, 10:15 pm

28 is what it is. It's very, very young in the grand scheme of life.
You're still in your athletic peak years.
If I was 28 again I might train more seriously as a runner because I'd still have
more years ahead of me where I can absorb hard quality training.

I'm 40 now and mentally I haven't given up as an athlete, but I know my body feels different than at 28.

28 is very young.

It's all relative. When you're 18 or 21 you can drink in most places. That's a big deal for some people.
25 is a quarter century. It is a milestone for some. 30 is another barrier.

I'm 40 and I feel young. Still feel I have a lot of life to live and that I'm just getting started.



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02 Jan 2025, 10:43 pm

TBH, in the modern era being in your 40s is a lot like that, as long as you have the good fortune to be living in the developed world and doing OKish.



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03 Jan 2025, 12:20 am

40 is the new Wednesday.



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03 Jan 2025, 1:18 am

Canadian Freedom Lover wrote:
I feel like 28 is kind of a weird age, not necessarily old but not necessarily young either. I noticed this at a family Christmas dinner that I attended. There was a bunch of teenagers and adults ranging from 35-75 but not anyone in their late 20's.

Another thing I've noticed now that I'm approaching 30 is that older people around me (family, friends, coworkers) are becoming increasingly more impatient with me because of my precived lack of success in life or having not gotten "it" whatever it may be.

I am running into more and more judgment and unsolicited advice from people also. I had anticipated this happening later in life but I wasn't prepared for the switch to real adulthood 30+. Unfortunately us Aspies have a tendency to be late bloomers, so I wouldn't be surprised if it takes me until 40 to become financially stable and more or less independent. Although, a lot of NT’s are are in the same boat and looking at approaching financial stability in their late 30's / early 40's also, so I guess I shouldn't beat myself up that much.

Unfortunately, the older generations (Boomers and Gen X) don't understand the plight of Millennial's and Gen Z. The older generations think that the 18-35 crowd is just lazy, and that they should just work harder if things get more expensive. I'm sorry grandpa boomer the math doesn't work out the average young person makes about 30-50k a year and a the cheapest studio apartment is 500k. I can't even afford to rent because a one bedroom suite is 2000+ a month around here.

Anyway, that's my rant about being 28. Feel free to write your thoughts down below.


Our society expects males to work, and work brings dignity and respect. Part of the reason I have stayed with jobs is abject fear of not having a job and being judged for it by family and by friends. People will look down on you for that one reason. Even if you are not making much money, if you have a job then that entitles you to a modicum of respect, it lifts you above the bar, suddenly you are better than all those unemployed guys, even if all you do is clean toilets at the rest areas. People at parties ask what do you do, suddenly you have an answer to that question, and then the conversation flows normally without judgement.


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03 Jan 2025, 3:31 am

Gentleman Argentum wrote:
Canadian Freedom Lover wrote:
I feel like 28 is kind of a weird age, not necessarily old but not necessarily young either. I noticed this at a family Christmas dinner that I attended. There was a bunch of teenagers and adults ranging from 35-75 but not anyone in their late 20's.

Another thing I've noticed now that I'm approaching 30 is that older people around me (family, friends, coworkers) are becoming increasingly more impatient with me because of my precived lack of success in life or having not gotten "it" whatever it may be.

I am running into more and more judgment and unsolicited advice from people also. I had anticipated this happening later in life but I wasn't prepared for the switch to real adulthood 30+. Unfortunately us Aspies have a tendency to be late bloomers, so I wouldn't be surprised if it takes me until 40 to become financially stable and more or less independent. Although, a lot of NT’s are are in the same boat and looking at approaching financial stability in their late 30's / early 40's also, so I guess I shouldn't beat myself up that much.

Unfortunately, the older generations (Boomers and Gen X) don't understand the plight of Millennial's and Gen Z. The older generations think that the 18-35 crowd is just lazy, and that they should just work harder if things get more expensive. I'm sorry grandpa boomer the math doesn't work out the average young person makes about 30-50k a year and a the cheapest studio apartment is 500k. I can't even afford to rent because a one bedroom suite is 2000+ a month around here.

Anyway, that's my rant about being 28. Feel free to write your thoughts down below.


Our society expects males to work, and work brings dignity and respect. Part of the reason I have stayed with jobs is abject fear of not having a job and being judged for it by family and by friends. People will look down on you for that one reason. Even if you are not making much money, if you have a job then that entitles you to a modicum of respect, it lifts you above the bar, suddenly you are better than all those unemployed guys, even if all you do is clean toilets at the rest areas. People at parties ask what do you do, suddenly you have an answer to that question, and then the conversation flows normally without judgement.


Well, I've been employed in one form or another since I was 13. It wasn't until just recently that I haven't been able to work due to health issues.



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03 Jan 2025, 3:37 am

123autism wrote:
28 is what it is. It's very, very young in the grand scheme of life.
You're still in your athletic peak years.
If I was 28 again I might train more seriously as a runner because I'd still have
more years ahead of me where I can absorb hard quality training.

I'm 40 now and mentally I haven't given up as an athlete, but I know my body feels different than at 28.

28 is very young.

It's all relative. When you're 18 or 21 you can drink in most places. That's a big deal for some people.
25 is a quarter century. It is a milestone for some. 30 is another barrier.

I'm 40 and I feel young. Still feel I have a lot of life to live and that I'm just getting started.


That's a very positive outlook on aging, 123autism.

I have always felt older than my chronological age, I've been called an old soul by some. I guess it's my recent health issues that are really making me feel old since I know people in their 70's that can currently run circles around me literally and metamorphically speaking.



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03 Jan 2025, 1:13 pm

Canadian Freedom Lover wrote:
123autism wrote:
28 is what it is. It's very, very young in the grand scheme of life.
You're still in your athletic peak years.
If I was 28 again I might train more seriously as a runner because I'd still have
more years ahead of me where I can absorb hard quality training.

I'm 40 now and mentally I haven't given up as an athlete, but I know my body feels different than at 28.

28 is very young.

It's all relative. When you're 18 or 21 you can drink in most places. That's a big deal for some people.
25 is a quarter century. It is a milestone for some. 30 is another barrier.

I'm 40 and I feel young. Still feel I have a lot of life to live and that I'm just getting started.


That's a very positive outlook on aging, 123autism.

I have always felt older than my chronological age, I've been called an old soul by some. I guess it's my recent health issues that are really making me feel old since I know people in their 70's that can currently run circles around me literally and metamorphically speaking.


You mention your health issues in your posts. I don't know what you're referring to and
it's obviously a personal thing, so I don't expect you to reveal whatever it is.

Maybe your mind can overcome it? That probably sounds idealistic.
Health is precious so I hope you can overcome whatever it is.

I just had my annual bloodwork and I'm relieved things are ok.
I've been paranoid that I have something but I always go to get checked out incase.



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03 Jan 2025, 1:48 pm

Gentleman Argentum wrote:
Our society expects males to work, and work brings dignity and respect.


Where I grew up in the 1970s early retirement was even better than working!

My father retired at 60 and I retired at 59.



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03 Jan 2025, 3:50 pm

BTDT wrote:
Gentleman Argentum wrote:
Our society expects males to work, and work brings dignity and respect.


Where I grew up in the 1970s early retirement was even better than working!

My father retired at 60 and I retired at 59.

Seeing as they recently expanded the social security payouts to include people that weren't supposed to be collecting them and that they haven't even tried to address the solvency issues, I don't expect to have that to help me retire. I'm fortunate, in that I do have a bunch of savings and will be inheriting a place to live, so that would cut down a lot on the cost of living, but I'm am very much aware that it will be tight for me and I'm effectively one of the very lucky ones.

The issue with being 28 is that that's when a bunch of the pipework for being able to retire, or at least cut back to working part time at a job that you are interested in happens. If you miss that, it's not impossible to catch up, but for the folks hanging around here it's often even harder.



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Yesterday, 9:48 pm

123autism wrote:
Canadian Freedom Lover wrote:
123autism wrote:
28 is what it is. It's very, very young in the grand scheme of life.
You're still in your athletic peak years.
If I was 28 again I might train more seriously as a runner because I'd still have
more years ahead of me where I can absorb hard quality training.

I'm 40 now and mentally I haven't given up as an athlete, but I know my body feels different than at 28.

28 is very young.

It's all relative. When you're 18 or 21 you can drink in most places. That's a big deal for some people.
25 is a quarter century. It is a milestone for some. 30 is another barrier.

I'm 40 and I feel young. Still feel I have a lot of life to live and that I'm just getting started.


That's a very positive outlook on aging, 123autism.

I have always felt older than my chronological age, I've been called an old soul by some. I guess it's my recent health issues that are really making me feel old since I know people in their 70's that can currently run circles around me literally and metamorphically speaking.


You mention your health issues in your posts. I don't know what you're referring to and
it's obviously a personal thing, so I don't expect you to reveal whatever it is.

Maybe your mind can overcome it? That probably sounds idealistic.
Health is precious so I hope you can overcome whatever it is.

I just had my annual bloodwork and I'm relieved things are ok.
I've been paranoid that I have something but I always go to get checked out incase.


I think I am gradually overcoming my health issues, I'm starting to figure out where I can push the limits a bit and where I still need to hold back.

Generally speaking, my life in comming together more or less as I had planned over the last six months. In 2024, I started out laying a framework to achieve my goals like, moving into subsidized housing, getting healthier by creating a health plan with my doctor and naturopath, as well as getting back to work when I'm ready.

All these things just take time, hard work, and a bit of luck to achieve, that's all.