Which is better? Meeting someone online or face to face?

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I seem to feel as though I'm not always motivated to try out any other dating sites and having had experience of being on them, recieving little views, replies or messages from people, it sometimes makes me feel "what's the point?". I do find myself finding it better talking to people face to face. I have felt strange just saying "Hi there, how are you?" And getting no response and seem to have heard that some women find those things are "boring". It frustrates me because how am I supposed to introduce myself or start a conversation ?

Online has worked better for me. It's ended in a fair few friendships and a couple of girlfriends and is how I met my current girlfriend.

Never had a date from a dating site.
Only got lucky once from the net, and that was a chatroom.
Real life is a different story. I did alright with 1:1 conversation, it just doesn't work with anyone else within earshot.

The Subject question seems . . . odd.

You meet someone in person.

You make contact with or encounter someone on-line.

c) all of the above

While each has advantages and disadvantages, that doesn't mean one is objectively better than the other.

For me and at this point in my life, online is better because I’m so timid in-person. I like being able to talk to someone and get to know them before engaging with them offline. It’s a bit easier to meet people I have things in common with online, too.

But that’s just me. I don’t think there’s one right answer here.

I would suggest avoiding the women that will likely get a ton of messages, the hot numbers that don't even bother writing a profile because they have attractive photos. Looks are superficial and that is what drives most males. Looks are important however, because they imply physical and reproductive health.

I would also suggest spear-fishing rather than casting a net with a ton of messages. In other words, find one woman that particularly appeals to you, not based upon her photo alone, but based upon what she has written in her profile as well. Reply to something that she has written. Reply with a cogent and meaningful response.

Also, avoid doom-scrolling. Based on your post history here, I get the impression you are rather desperate, and that is something that will work against you, ironically. Rather accept your status of being single and begin to view yourself as desirable and valuable, because if you do not view yourself that way, then others certainly will not.

What I suggest specifically is to only visit the dating sites once a week, for one to two hours. Spend no more than 15 minutes scrolling through profiles. The majority of your time should be spent in two areas. One, your own profile. Keep refining it, with better photos and revising the text. Look at your profile afresh every once in a while. The other area is in messages to women. You should parse your words carefully because you get only one shot with a stranger.

The thing is because I'm doing other things, I get the thoughts in my head to try out a new dating site but I never get round to doing because I'm probably at work or am doing a hobby or out somewhere during my leisure time. I also seem to have lost interest in some way with social media like uploading photos even of myself and I do have photos but they are a few years old but I don't seem to be particularly very interested as I said in taking photos of myself. I do feel like the only one saying this and do feel by not doing what I've said it's "odd" because most people have social media and is actively using dating apps more than me whereas I'm not as active and then feel that is the reason why I see a lot of couples is because they met online even though I clearly don't and can't know how they met.

You have to make finding a partner your top priority if you ever want to make progress and start seeing results @chris1989!! !

It's the only way to actually get anywhere!


Learned that the hard way...