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Hi, my login Nibiruninki is related to my interest, aliens Anunnaki, tablets of Enki. Enki, in the story was initially called the lord of the earth (ki) and Ninki was his wife. According to the tablets they created humanity, Enki and his step sister, Ninmah. I’m in love with this story, also other stories and theories. I’m living in my own inner world often disconnected from this world, because I can’t find myself place here and I always have difficulties that others seem to not have and hearing the good advice with smile “you just need to try harder, you just need to think more positively” leaves me frustrated and misunderstood. I went through severe depression in my youth, that left me feel empty and wondering who I am actually. I was diagnosed multiple times and now was informed that I’m probably autistic, currently exploring autism. The deeper I explore the more I find myself there. But there are also doubts and they are exhausting. I hope to find some connections. I’m not sure if I ever get diagnosed even if I really am autistic, because my mom denies that and a family input is necessary which is understandable.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Welcome to WP! I hope you find comfort here.

And...regarding diagnosis...the most important diagnosis to get is the correct diagnosis.

But I admit I was very pleased when I got my Autism diagnosis. It explained so much!

Howdy Howdy Howdy

I didn't understand much of that -- well, any of that -- but welcome anyway.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

Nibiruninki88, Welcome to Wrong Planet.

You wrote, "I’m living in my own inner world often disconnected from this world, because I can’t find myself place here and I always have difficulties that others seem to not have and hearing the good advice with smile “you just need to try harder, you just need to think more positively” leaves me frustrated and misunderstood."

Yes, that can be a problem. Let me try and explain human brain construction. We are an advanced species with multiple brains. Some exist on the right side of our skull. They are support brains. Some exist on the left side of our brains. They are the dominant daytime brain. This transition normally occurs around age 12. But for some of us, we experience a brain flip and the two sides change places. Our night time brain becomes our dominant daytime brain and it is like we exist on the Wrong Planet.

But some of us have figured out a solution to this dilemma, we create a different version of the human species. We learn to open up both sides of our brain to solve problems. So the world is trying to tell you to change and become them. But that does not work well. The solution is to grow both sides of your brain. Become an exceptional human being.

Threat this like a game, like a movie, like Enki. You are Enki but you have entered a strange world, a very different world. You must evolve one side of your brain to fit into this world. You are still Enki but you also must walk around in disguise. Learn to see both sides of everything but still be yourself and make the correct decisions in your life story.

“And...regarding diagnosis...the most important diagnosis to get is the correct diagnosis.

But I admit I was very pleased when I got my Autism diagnosis. It explained so much![/quote]”

I absolutely agree and I feel that this diagnosis would be the most accurate. My therapist told me he suspects me autistic, and asked me to educate myself in the topic. I feel like I was much more autistic/ had stronger autistic traits as a child. Now I kinda got more “normal” but still not fitting in, I often feel like I have no personality, or I don’t know who I am and that I’m not fully grown up. I feel it especially in social situations. I learned to recognize people’s state to some extent but I still don’t belong. I don’t know if I need diagnosis, but I do need some support, specific therapy probably as my stimming does a harm to me - lip picking. I don’t feel much pain so I often pick them to the blood and now after decades of doing it I heard I must be careful because the black spots that appeared there might be cancer. So I’m scared. My mom does not accept the idea of me being autistic. I’m not trying to convince her. I just told her if she wants she can research “Asperger female characteristics” and then tell me if she finds me there. But she didn’t.
I’m not sure if I should be part of this community, as I don’t have autism diagnosis, I feel lost.

Ahoy-hoy.

Welcome To WP , newcomer...

Welcome on board.

A formal Autism diagnosis is not a requirement for being on WP.

An informal Autism diagnosis is not a requirement for being on WP.

A suspicion you are Autistic is not a requirement for being on WP.

Even if you have a formal diagnosis as not being Autistic, and the diagnosis is obviously correct to you and everyone who knows you, but you have a polite interest in the topic, then you qualify for being on WP.

Yes you have found the right place. You mentioned a couple characteristics that you have.

You wrote that you feel like "I’m not fully grown up." I would say the same thing about my self. If you look very deep inside me you will find the mind of a child, but a very, very smart child.

You wrote "my stimming does a harm to me - lip picking."
Yes these are some of our characteristics. Not mine but others on the site. When I was a young child, I had a trait, I was a thumb sucker. Any time I felt stress, I would suck my thumb. But my mom said "Stop That", so I did. I dropped it and substituted another trait to replace it. So instead of thumb sucking, I developed another trait like chewing my fingernails. When that became a problem, I picked another trait. After about 5 traits, I finally slid into a phase where I no longer had any negative traits.

About your stimming. Your brain has two sides. One on the left and one on the right. They are different brains. The brain on the left side is dominant. It is the one that allows you to speak. But your brain on the right side is different. It allows you to sing. There was a television program that showed this effect quite well a few years ago. It was about a teenage girl who found it very difficult to talk. She tried but all she could do was stimming. But then she began to sing and her voice was perfect. People were amazed at how she could sing. These abilities are in different parts of your brain. One on the right and one on the left side of your skull.

So if you are damaging your body by lip picking, change it to another trait. Pick something else that you can do that does not cause any body damage. According to the Internet,

Dermatillomania is a mental health condition where a person compulsively picks or scratches their skin, causing injuries or scarring. Also known as excoriation disorder or skin-picking disorder, this condition falls under the category of obsessive-compulsive disorders (OCDs). When it leads to significant scarring and injuries, this condition can severely affect a person’s mental health, well-being and quality of life.

Medications
The most common medications that healthcare providers prescribe to help treat this condition include:

-- Antidepressants. The most likely medications for this are Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs).
-- Anticonvulsants. Lamotrigine is a medication that helps with uncontrollable muscle movements. Research shows it can help in some cases of dermatillomania.
-- Antipsychotics. These medications help by modifying the balance in your brain chemistry. These medications commonly treat many conditions like dementia, bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. Researchers are also continuing to look into how they can help treat conditions like dermatillomania.
-- Nutraceuticals. These are nutrition-related products that can also affect medical or mental health conditions. For dermatillomania, research has found that the amino acid supplement N-acetylcysteine can help reduce the urge to pick.

Therapies
Psychotherapy can help treat this condition in various ways, depending on the therapy method used.

-- Habit reversal therapy. This method involves helping you become more aware of your behaviors and activity patterns. By helping you become more aware, this therapy teaches you to break habits like skin picking.
-- Group therapy and peer support. People with dermatillomania may benefit from specific types of group therapy or support.
-- Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). This method involves teaching coping mechanisms and strategies to help change behavior.
-- Acceptance and commitment therapy. This therapy method helps people change behaviors like skin picking by accepting negative feelings that fuel the behavior. Mindfulness and other positive coping mechanisms also play a role.

So in my case, my mom just used Habit reversal therapy. When I was a child, My mom just screamed at me anytime I sucked my thumb.