I am so lonely and feel like I am stuck in a dead end

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I had three people that I thought were my friends ghost me, one flaked on me when we were supposed to make plans. Why are people so flakey and inconsistent? Technology and social media has made it easier to ghost people and avoid confrontation. I'm not forcing anyone to be my friend either. If they don't want to talk to me, I'd rather have them say so. Ghosting isn't always personal, I get it. But it's another thing to get my hopes up and waste my time. I can earn back the money I used to buy gifts for others, but I cannot earn back time. As of now, I am too mentally drained to socialize too much but I wish I had some consistent friends. Recently, my best friend betrayed me and stabbed me in the back. I spent over 1k to go visit him and all I get in return is deflection, disrespect and wasted time. Due to stupid FAFSA requirements, I can't afford school and am stuck in retail. It's not that I expect to have constant attention from friends, but some consistency and respect would be nice. I just want to feel heard and less lonely...

Yep, I really dislike the rise of ghosting, too.

If you have not done so already, I would suggest that you to find some local groups that interest you (e.g. via Meetup.com), including both (1) groups devoted to hobbies or activities that interest you and (2) autistic adult support groups. Hopefully the groups will have some way of staying in touch between in-person meetings (e.g. via Discord).

It seems to me that, other factors being equal, a friendship is likely to be less brittle if it exists as part of some larger social circle than if it exists in a vacuum.