Feel stuck/lack of progress? Unrealistic expectations?

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When you are focused on a goal, you learn along the way and improve in many ways.
I'm very honest about your remarks and the remarks of others.
To suggest I'm dishonest is a failed attempt to protect your narrative - which again as has been established is not relevant to the success of my project. It's only relevant in your mind.

You seem to want to believe your comments hold more weight than they do. This is just a message board.
Don't take your comments too seriously. Get outside and enjoy life!

But you have been dishonest...



"I'm not saying it's happening here..."

But you were, you doubled down on it later, and still are.

Ok, I think it's safe to assume that when someone is ambitious, it does threaten the sense of self of others.
I think that's happened in this thread.
I am being honest.

Sometimes it’s more pleasant for people to assume that others are the problem when they provide honest but disappointing feedback, even when it’s asked for. This can lead to reactionary comments (e.g. claiming that others are jealous, threatened, taking themselves too seriously, or flawed in some way). I think that’s what happened in this thread.

Being able to politely receive criticism or feedback is a necessary skill for writers or other types of artists because it comes with the territory.

You don’t know anything about the members who posted in this thread, including how ambitious or successful we may or may not be nor the projects we might be engaged in, so your assumptions appear to be baseless.

I'm not influenced by your feedback. I've read it, that's all. Why do you assume your feedback is affecting me?

Beyond entertaining me - you and others in this thread are merely providing a social outlet. This is a form of interaction.

I don't know much about the others in this thread, but I do know this thread seems to have struck a chord with them.

That appears to be the case based on how you responded to it.

The thread struck a chord only insofar as people wanting to help you since it seems as though you’ve put your life on hold - relationships, working towards personal growth, striving for achieving other career goals, or whatever else - for something that most likely won’t materialize. If you still believe in your script and want to sell it, that’s fine, but it’s not a good idea to put all your eggs in one basket. Even with the best script in the world, it’s hard to achieve success because there’s a certain amount of luck involved. It’s always a good idea to continue growing and improving if you want to be successful in a particular field. Managing expectations is also prudent.

Well if I am influenced by you as you wish to believe, you are equally influenced by my comments.
You're not going to change my project, you're just providing some online dialogue.
I think you ought to consider what you're saying and reflect on it. When you do, you may realize it doesn't sound very logical.
You think that I'm adverse to criticism. Yet you fail to realize that my script has been through multiple drafts and has been critiqued by professionals in the film industry.

So, obviously - your opinion is not based on reality.

It would be accurate to say that I have accepted a lot of criticism and have adjusted accordingly.

And to think I've put my life on hold, what is that supposed to mean? I've grown as a person in the last 10 years.
If I am putting 'all my eggs in one basket', I'm not losing in any measurable way.

I already have a possible meeting set up for later in the week on my project and spoke today on the phone
with someone from an entertainment firm. I'm looking forward to more progress.

You don't have to agree with what I believe in, but I think you've made your point.
Whether you think what I am doing is realistic or not makes no difference.
If you spend more of your efforts on your own writing, I think you'll feel better.

Well, that's a choice. I can't say that it really impacts me either way, but that attitude is going to pretty much guarantee that the 10 years turns into 10 + the rest of your life. Whether or not it's fair, people making these buying decisions are doing so as much on the basis of the person pitching as the actual thing that's being pitched. Especially in the last few years when major figures have gone down for various bad behavior.

^^ I feel fine. I don’t think I suggested otherwise in this thread.

You’ve made it clear that your primary goal has been to sell this script. You’ve not worked on serious writing projects and don’t seem interested in growing as a writer or musician. You’ve also stated in other threads that you aren’t interested in dating until you become prosperous.

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What if you don’t sell your script or become prosperous? Will you regret the choices that you have made and the missed opportunities that resulted from focusing on this goal?

I could go into specific problems that I had with your script, but I suspect that wouldn’t go over very well.

What I take from you is that you don't have copy written material that is ready for sale.
If you did, you'd believe in it sincerely and wouldn't be deterred by non decision makers.
If you believe in something, you just believe. I maintain a strong mindset. I feel that it's my conviction in myself and self belief which seems to be aggravating you and others on this thread.

You are entitled to your point of view, but you aren't buying my project. I'm not engaged in any meaningful transaction with you.

This is a serious writing project and I have certainly grown as a musician - the fact I've become a pro is testament to that.

My personal life isn't relevant to this thread, but nice try lol.

Any comments you have on my script, you should email them to me. I may read them. Doubtful I'll change the script at this time, but I'll keep them in mind. If you really want to make your voice heard, that would be the best way to do that.
Or do you just want to continue trying to argue when little is accomplished?
Also, what qualifications do you have? Have you been paid for your writing? Do you have a bachelors degree in English or a related field? I'd be more inclined to take someone seriously if I have some idea of their background.

I know the perceived flaws in the script. It's sufficient enough and that's why it is what it is. It's good enough for me and that is what counts right now. If you believe in something strongly, you'd feel the same way.

I have a BA in English and worked as a TA. I also took a graduate class in creative writing and wrote a short story. I didn’t try to publish it because I wrote it purely for myself, but I received very positive feedback and a high grade on it. I also took a theatre class and went on various theatre trips to NYC, so I’m familiar with reading plays and scripts.

I believe in myself more than in specific things I’ve written. I’m not into the concept of believing in my creation to the point where I’m not interested in personal growth or engaging in other projects.

Belief in a project won’t guarantee results. Many people believe their work is great and worthy of publication even when it isn’t. Sometimes accomplished writers recognize areas in which they can grow and improve.

Given the competition, a script needs to be good, not just solid, sufficient, or whatever.

I was supposed to get my doctorate at Cornell but then stuff happened. It’s something my favorite professor and I had talked about. Even if my awards, 3.9 GPA, and experience as her TA weren’t enough, she said that she’d have no trouble getting me in. She was very well-known and well-respected. That’s just life, though. It doesn’t always go the way you want it to. Sometimes you have to shift the focus if one dream won’t materialize.

But you weren't being honest when you said you DID NOT think it was happening, cos clearly you did.

It's also dishonest to claim that others are threatened by your motivations, when you have no clue who you're talking to.

Ambition?

I have an AA, a BAS and an MBA. I was offered a seat on the DBA program, but I wasn't in a place to accept. I still plan to go back. I have two racecars that I built myself. I'm a trained professional mechanic, both automotive and marine. I've studied 8 different martial arts, including kenpo, boxing, pencak silat, and praying mantis kung fu. I taught myself carpentry, plumbing, home electrical, and welding. I build custom gaming and home-theater PCs for people. I have a few clients for whom I do routine repairs and maintenance, as well as the occasional financial audit or business analysis. I also sing, compose, cook, dance, garden, landscape, sew, and have written more than a few legal briefs and business plans.

LOL yeah, sure, I wouldn't know anything about ambition...

Getting defensive all over a message board thread. Wow. Unbelievable.

It seems more like people are responding to issues and assumptions you yourself have brought up or made. I don’t think there’s anything surprising about that.