my "friend" could help but he pushes me to call toxic family

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Also he asks so many super invasive questions.
He was so crazy. He seemed to want me to work for him on onlyfans.

I blocked him but it was so traumatizing.
But this experience made me feel terrible,
Why can't I persuade people to help me.

I am exhausted.

I do not know what you are talking about.

Ah, onlyfans is like a site where you share sexually explicit images of yourself for money.

The other stuff is just about him being dismissive of things I told him,
and pressing me to go back to family that were abusive toward me.

For some reason a number of people think it is their responsibility to instruct others as to what to do as if they were robots waiting for instruction. Those that would be more helpful would first ask what your desires would be. Using the example of being disconnected from family, if it were your objective to eventually be in contact with them, you might at some point write a letter of inquiry see if they are also interested in starting communications.

A person that wants to help usually offers suggestions for your consideration as opposed to issuing directives.

The sex thing should be a really big red flag (warning sign). As a general rule it is advisable to avoid people that bully, manipulate, and exploit. There are people with whom you might find help and those you might be friends with. However, there are those who might hurt you even if they express good intentions, it can be wise to avoid them.

Good call on blocking him.
What kinds of things are you wanting help with In my experience lots of people do not understand autism & various other types of disabilities & issues. Some think we should be more independent than what we are, or that we're lazy & want to mooch off others, or that we're intentionally being overly difficult. Unfortunately it sometimes feels like we need someone to help us find a support system & various services that could potentially help us. So it's a like a catch 22 situation where we need help just to get help sometimes.

Honestly that time it was just meant to be a catch up,
but he went crazy with these questions and sex stuff.
I think he has a lot of his own problems, he is medicated.
He said he uses fake photos on tinder, so I took that to also be
a sign of willingness to use deception and people for his own ends.

I wish I could have walked out earlier.
I did better than last time I met him though,
so I will be ready for this "rapid-fire" questioning next time.

Before I asked him with some bureaucracy help, to be like a reference.

I guess he detected that there was a slight giving wrt my boundaries for family,
because obviously it is murky. It's hard to be firm, because it requires a bit of lying.

So if I were a manipulative person and had a line on someone, who was willing to do naked or otherwise compromising piks of me. And they were making efforts for me to contact previously abusive family members . For the abusive person to hold these pictures in his possession. He might just tell you if you do not do this or that , he could share your pictures to various other abusive people to get you to do things or engage in acts, you might not wish to be associated with?
Just A FYI ..I have had to contend with people like this when I was younger .
Just Wanted to make sure that all the possibilities are out in plain veiw.

Would think twice about extending the title of Friend to anyone like this. And if you work with him, might slways have another party present to watch out for your best interest..? possibly Does Sound alittle like a grooming situation?......!

Yeah that's true.
He was asking questions about family assets.
I wouldn't pin him as that malicious, but I don't know who else he is affiliated with.

YIKES....family assets,,,,,,sorry, it really just feeling like a time to walk away, regardless of any excitement or eagerness you might feel the urge to engage in.....These kinds of Questions,and pictures are usually something the Police would possibly wish to investigate , IMHO .Questions on anyones finances , praticularily if it is in regards to other family members assets...Sends up not just red flags,, but RED skyrockets of Warning...
But it is your life... Just take care that sort term ,incidental business, does tie up and engage in other areas of yout life, you might not wish to have it extend too..! common sense can be hard to come by these days. And Aspies are idea targets for exploitations, whether they wish to acknowledge it or not.