Should I feel bad for not having a moving out mindset?

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I read a study in which 18% of 25 to 34 year olds are still living with their parents and struggling to have enough money to move out, rent or their own property. I sometimes feel "bad" because unlike my peers I haven't had an urge in my brain telling me to move out and continue to live with parents. None of them have spoken to me whatsoever about it. If I were to move out and rent somewhere, all the money would be put towards the rent and not afford anything else. I probably have enough to buy a small house but if I did, all the money would be gone.

The thing is despite this I do work and contribute to rent of the house where I live with my mum and partner. They've got no problem with me being there. I understand that other people in my family need their own space and that I'd have to fend for myself and self sufficient and not always have their grown up children still living there but if house and rent prices were not ridiculously high then maybe they would have left by now.

I do seem to think in the UK in particular, there is this mentality for people to buy their own homes and renting is sometimes frowned upon. I don't know if I am one of those people guilty for being comfortable in my parents homes and not willing to get a small flat.

I moved out when I was 22 but my brother did not.
When it was time for mom to move he wanted me to travel across the country and help him out!

Uh, no, I figured that it is now his responsibility after all those years of living there.

I only moved out at 24 to move in with my then-fiancé, to whom I am now married. Were I not married, I'd probably still live with my parents.

To be fair, this whole "move out as soon as you're an adult" phenomenon is not universal. My mom's family is from Brazil, and, from what I've been told, it's not at all uncommon for people to not move out of their family homes until marriage (and sometimes not even then! -- multi-generational homes are common, or at least more common than they appear to be in the U.S.).