Why does fertility coincide with a career and stuff in life?

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I can't understand why we are more fertile in our late teens/early twenties when people's brains are not fully formed and matured until later. It makes it come across as though that is the ''ideal'' time to start thinking and having children but back then, that was the last thing on my mind while it was during the time I left sixth form, went to college for two years doing art and design and then wanted to go on to uni. Looking back and knowing this information, it makes it feel as though we ''should'' have done these things earlier despite not being mature enough and not ideally in the 30s and over for both men and women.

Because becoming fertile earlier is an advantage in a world where people couldn't count on making it to middle age.

If you reproduce earlier, from a genetic standpoint it doesn't matter if you die, you've already contributed to the next generation.

Sometimes just say to yourself:
Life is a b***h

And try not focus on negative, smile, think of something to look forward to and move on. Nothing more to think Bout.

I get what you mean. I was in the same boat in my late teens and early twenties, focusing on getting through college and figuring out what I wanted to do with my life. Starting a family wasn’t even on my radar back then. It’s funny, though—biologically, our bodies are ready for that stuff early, but mentally, we're still trying to figure out who we are and what we want. For me, it wasn’t until my 30s that I started feeling more settled and ready for something like that. I think it really comes down to where you’re at in life—there’s no perfect time for everyone.

I seem to feel I'm about at least five years or more behind my peers because I've seen others in their late 20s to mid 30s who have got kids and in relationships and some are married. There people of my generation of I know of personally who've been in long term relationships since their early/mid 20s, one of whom got married and had kids during that time and some of their kids are now 13 or 15. Seeing that leaves me with the impression that I should have been in a relationship long term by this age and had my 2nd child by now but I still feel a like a 20+ year old in a 30+ year old body and still feel don't feel "ready" when I maybe should be ready into your 30s. I feel like I'm still figuring out myself, and sometimes enjoy being single but there's this self imposed internal pressure because I see others transitioning and feeling as though I should stop being single for too long now and start knuckling down in finding a partner like my dad told me which I seem to think aggravates anxiety and the thoughts that "time is running out".

I do also remember someone saying in regards to having children because she had children that "well, when are you going to be ready or prepared for these things". I keep thinking my sister at 26 didn't want to have a baby before she got pregnant and was not ready or prepared for it and now has a five year old son.