I NEED My Friends

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Don't you people care, I feel sooooooooo alone & soooo scared, I have no one to talk to. I wrote a post in Haven, no one reply that makes me feel like nobody cares, make me feel crying.

There are a lot more readers than writers in here.
I read almost all your posts but rarely feel qualified to respond due to our vastly different circumstances. My isolation is largely self imposed (except currently while I have limited mobility whilst recovering from surgery.)
But I do feel for the restrictions in your existence and hope you get to find a place you can feel comfortable.
**Hugz**

People don't always have anything relevant to contribute, but especially when it's the same complaints repeatedly.

Beyond that, the Haven isn't very useful for providing constructive advice so some posters don't get involved with Haven threads to avoid having to walk on eggshells, as is the expectation in there.

It can be hard dealing with being dependent upon others and them trying to do things in the way they believe is best, but it's also a huge burden to have to provide support for people who aren't capable of being independent, especially when they insist that the assistance is all wrong and express more complaints than gratitude.

Better communication between you and your sister would likely improve things, but so would an extra helping of empathy for both of you. It sounds like she's unwilling to consider things from your perspective and you're unwilling to consider things from her perspective.

It sounds like the support she provides likely leaves her exhausted and forces her to not be able to prioritize helping you over taking care of her own needs sometimes. If the roles were reversed, you'd also treat your needs as more important than hers, at least some of the time.

Your complaints about her not prioritizing finding you better housing seems similar to if I was complaining that my folks aren't helping me find a replacement car fast enough, while also not investing my own effort towards that goal. If you invest more effort of your own that can help her by reducing the effort she needs to invest. If she's less exhausted, she might be able to be more helpful but also she's likely to be less resentful when you dismiss her efforts as not good enough.