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20 Nov 2024, 5:33 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
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yeah, due to lack of intimacy, i refuse to call my last partner an ex-GF, i will never understand why someone will agree to have some sort of relationship with someone, go on dates with them, hang out with them, cuddle and kiss them, but not want to do anything below the pants, i will never understand that.


So, you seem to be admitting that there was intimacy, just not of the type you were hoping for.


That doesn't count as intimacy to me


I guess we're just ignoring what intimacy means and redefining it to mean getting your dick wet.

There's nothing wrong with wanting sex, but it doesn't mean all intimacy that doesn't result in sex isn't intimacy.


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20 Nov 2024, 6:09 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
I guess we're just ignoring what intimacy means and redefining it to mean getting your dick wet.

There's nothing wrong with wanting sex, but it doesn't mean all intimacy that doesn't result in sex isn't intimacy


Yeah, kissing and touching are also forms of intimacy!! !

Intimacy shouldn't be defined as only sex or penetration!



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20 Nov 2024, 6:14 pm

There’s emotional intimacy, too, which involves sharing thoughts, feelings, and experiences - stuff that you wouldn’t necessarily share with other people.



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21 Nov 2024, 2:42 am

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There’s emotional intimacy, too, which involves sharing thoughts, feelings, and experiences - stuff that you wouldn’t necessarily share with other people.


That's true!

David and I have gotten to the point of emotional intimacy...which can lead to physical intimacy!! ! :heart: :heart: :heart:



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23 Nov 2024, 12:38 am

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
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There’s emotional intimacy, too, which involves sharing thoughts, feelings, and experiences - stuff that you wouldn’t necessarily share with other people.


That's true!

David and I have gotten to the point of emotional intimacy...which can lead to physical intimacy!! ! :heart: :heart: :heart:


well that didn't happen in my last relationship, the physical part, makes me angry that it didn't happen.



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09 Dec 2024, 9:03 pm

as long she doesn't have issues or problems with sex/intimacy, then we are all good



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09 Dec 2024, 9:19 pm

So you only care about the sex part? Just a genuine question.



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11 Dec 2024, 3:25 am

TwilightPrincess wrote:
So you only care about the sex part? Just a genuine question.


well sex is a normal expected part of a relationship



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01 Jan 2025, 1:39 pm

I did have a relationship with another aspie. It did not end well.
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03 Jan 2025, 4:12 am

My current and longest-lasting relationship is with a fellow autistic person.


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04 Jan 2025, 10:35 pm

I posted this in another thread but it still applies here:

Back in 2005 I made friends with a moderator named GalileoAce after we had a funny argument about Star Trek. I was having mental illness trouble after that and he supported me through it so I decided to visit him on the other side of the country in Melbourne and Geelong. We got along so well that we became a couple.

He moved to Queensland to his parents' place so he could save money in order to move into a place with me. I visited him there a couple of times then he came across Australia and we lived together. We got married in 2007.

I wish I could say happily ever after but we hit a rough patch when GA decided he wanted to transition into a woman. I also wish I could say I was fully supportive of her decision, but I wasn't. I left her to live with my parents for a few years. I wasn't far from GA so I visited her and we remained great friends.

In 2013, my parents decided to move to the country so guess what? I moved back in with GA. We now have a special platonic bond that goes beyond ordinary friendship. I love her to bits and most likely always will.



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24 Jan 2025, 2:23 pm

I would imagine being with another person with ASD would be hard, in a romantic way. My issues plus theirs's, sounds like endless meltdowns and fights. Now, if I could find someone who could deal with my occasional BS, a patient NT could work.


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