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I've often wondered if the best way to diffuse a fight might not be to start undressing.

Just strip off. You still want to kick my ass? Okay but I'm going to be completely nude while you do it.

I reckon most aggressive guys would would be so unable to deal with this that they'd walk away.

^Haha

“Or…”

That reminds me of a movie scene where Awkwafina distracts a bully from attacking her friend by singing “Hotel California” by The Eagles.

I've got into a bit of physical fights in elementary school during recess & I don't think I ever won. I always been extremely weak. I was lanky as a kid & teen & wore thick coke-bottle glasses so bullies saw me as a very easy mark. To make matters worse I usually got in trouble for starting the fights because it was my word against a group of kids or even just one bully who had a better rep than me. Makes NO logical sense that a weak kid like me would intentionally start fights with tougher kids. Very thankfully I haven't had any physical fights since switching schools in the middle of 6th grade & went to a school for dyslexia through 8th grade. It didn't do high-school but the high-school I went to was a lot better than the three schools I went to before the dyslexic school.

I haven't been in a physical fight since I was a youth. At my age it would be strange. And I don't get angry enough to start getting physical. I'd try to use whatever means of self-defense were at my disposal if I were attacked, and being attacked might make me angry enough to overdo it and smash them with a brick or something. People who attack innocent bystanders want bloody locking up. But I've not met one for a very long time.

As for "fights" with words etc., I don't see a lot of point so I don't bother much. I like the idea of playing a competitive game with somebody, but only as long as it's understood on both sides before it starts that it is a game. So, "care for a game of darts?" is fine, but getting all competitive and disingenuous with me just because I've said something that might offend somebody's cherished opinions, that's just stupid. And if somebody invited me to take part in a competitive debate, well the idea intrigues me a little but I'd probably not bother. I don't think it's good to practice brainwashing and verbal hectoring skills. If we're going to talk, let's keep it honest, co-operative, and civilised.

Not since I was 13. I was a bit late into puberty and short and skinny, so I lost all my fights. Granted, taking on three guys at once was kinda stupid.

I'm 6 ft 4 now and I occasionally get the death stare from men my height and shorter.

Don't get into fights ...

Nope. If someone started physically attacking me I'd probably start calling them a baby and insulting them because they don't know how to solve problems like a civilized adult. I can't imagine myself ever hitting someone. As much as I might fantasize about, say, punching T***p in the face, I don't think I'm capable of physically hurting anyone even in self-defense.

I got into fights in elementary school. I figured the best way to get people off my back was to fight them. You can thank my mum and the spankings she gave me. I learned from the spankings to hit my peers if they don't stop pushing my buttons.

Co-ordination would be a problem, for most of us its keeping that anxiety from physical confrontation under control

There's a good reason why I'm able to walk at night alone to a point I have to reassure people.
Seriously. Sometimes it's annoying that I have to.

I don't have to use a lot of words, more like I make people assume from my body language.
I have particular habits that make me seemingly more aware of my surroundings than I actually do.

I don't know how, but I don't register as someone who's anxious that will fawn or will freeze, I'm registered as someone who will hit back. Not my words.

They're more wary about that or underestimate me over it.
Insults and provocations from the streets do not affect me.

I never needed to prepare myself.
It's more like I always have this pent up feeling that I'm always looking for a fight.

Sometimes people read it as if people should stay away from me. And I'm someone whose stature is skinny and not that tall.


So far, I'm not clumsy to not run or not be able to hit back. And I have a screwed sense of danger that people think I'm being brave.

And an equally screwed fear based reaction that's not typical of most humans, let alone typical of an autistics'.


As for verbal confrontation, all I need is a better internal regulation (to guarantee, a reliable executive function processing) and then I can do it well.
Preferably as long as my damn body is not a cognitive processing thief.


As a kid and a teenager?
I was easily provoked and being very reactively violent that's mistaken for a meltdown.
I say it's not a meltdown because the thought of hurting people back is very intentional.

I chased too many kids at my age, beaten up plenty of boys that did.
And people around me then can see that I'm being provoked, knew better than encourage it, that bullies are more like doing it for the thrill.

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