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08 Jan 2025, 12:13 am

What did someone manipulate you into doing and how did they do it?



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08 Jan 2025, 3:34 am

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What did someone manipulate you into doing and how did they do it?


Ex's have manipulated me into believing the preposterous things that they believe, through frequent repetition and demonstration of their rhetoric, and also into coughing up money for their nonsensical and wasteful purchases of future additions to the city landfill. It is simply a matter of their believing a lie and repeating it incessantly as though it were the golden truth set down in times forgotten and making it clear that my acceptance of this garbage was essential to retaining their continued goodwill.


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09 Jan 2025, 9:18 pm

2023, a hacker had the nerve to manipulate me into giving him my bank account passwords. however, the bank manager saved me from losing my $$$. thank buddha.

2004, a "friend" had the nerve to manipulate me into lending him my car keys. he said he'd come back the next day and he didn't come back. two months later, i found my car. since then, i have not trusted anyone else or even myself, so i have not had a car, so i won't be able to do anything wrong with the car.

2012, my "friend" cory had the nerve to manipulate me into taking community college classes (so that i could apply for internships that required interns to be students). that idea might've been good in a different situation, but it was also extremely ineffective and inefficient. not worth the time, $$$ and energy it took to get there.



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10 Jan 2025, 12:58 am

Gentleman Argentum wrote:
shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
What did someone manipulate you into doing and how did they do it?


Ex's have manipulated me into believing the preposterous things that they believe, through frequent repetition and demonstration of their rhetoric, and also into coughing up money for their nonsensical and wasteful purchases of future additions to the city landfill. It is simply a matter of their believing a lie and repeating it incessantly as though it were the golden truth set down in times forgotten and making it clear that my acceptance of this garbage was essential to retaining their continued goodwill.


Now why does that sound familiar?
Perchance, had they an obvious fake tan?



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14 Jan 2025, 9:39 am

I used to work with a fake friend who I am pretty sure had to had narcissistic traits. Anyway, she would use manipulative tactics though the form of triangulation. While she convinced me that we were work "Best friends," she convinced my other co-workers that she hated me. Then when a new co-worker came along, I would tell her that we were best friend while other people at work said that I was lying.

I also lived with a roommate who would abused me emotionally when no one was around. Then when other people were around, she was nice



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15 Jan 2025, 6:29 pm

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
2023, a hacker had the nerve to manipulate me into giving him my bank account passwords. however, the bank manager saved me from losing my $$$. thank buddha.

2004, a "friend" had the nerve to manipulate me into lending him my car keys. he said he'd come back the next day and he didn't come back. two months later, i found my car. since then, i have not trusted anyone else or even myself, so i have not had a car, so i won't be able to do anything wrong with the car.

2012, my "friend" cory had the nerve to manipulate me into taking community college classes (so that i could apply for internships that required interns to be students). that idea might've been good in a different situation, but it was also extremely ineffective and inefficient. not worth the time, $$$ and energy it took to get there.


Cory's manipulation does not sound that bad. The other two are terrible.

Unfortunately, we can't trust anything coming out of a phone, email, letter, or social media. For now, we can trust the evidence of our eyes in the physical realm. That is, if somebody looks like who they say they are, they probably are same. But nothing else can be trusted online or over the phone.

AI-generation of images & even human voices has made scamming really dangerous even for experienced folks...


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06 Feb 2025, 10:36 pm

"inappropriate"

coworker RM last week, for the second time, had the nerve to bark @ me that it was "inappropriate" for me to change clothes in the breakroom and that i needed to go to the bathroom b/c i was "making people uncomfortable." there were plenty of other idiots in the breakroom, including Gardener LPK (the one that had the nerve to bark @ me for washing my face in the breakroom sink. the one that wanted to eat my granola bar, then went to mcdonalds.) and none of the other idiots said anything about it.

"disrespect". some ass holes act like just b/c they are not happy, it proves that someone violated their stupidass "rights", but nobody has a "right" to be happy, not even the sultan of brunei, s**t!

"uncomfortable". when RM was barking @ me, that stupid lil b***h was making ME uncomfortable. anything could make anyone uncomfortable. if noone ever does anything b/c it made someone uncomfortable, noone would ever do anything.

RM and mister redelings and most annoying lil dipshits do not care about anyone except themselves, s**t!

"distracting". everything is distracting, grounding, or both. eight billion people in the solar system. anyone could find anything "distracting". it is not possible to objectively measure how "grounded" or "distracted" you are.

"people" sounds like eight billion, but "people" literally means two or more. noone ever said that i am not a person, but "you make people uncomfortable with the way you dress", (mister redelings, san diego, civil engineer, 2006), is factually correct. however, it sounded like i made "everyone" uncomfortable but i only made homophobic precious lil "people" "uncomfortable". it sounded like i was not a "person" and mister redelings represented "people". former counselor jeanne (2016) said "you do not make people uncomfortable. homophobia makes people uncomfortable." wrong. just b/c jeanne is not homophobic, doesn't mean everything she said is correct. EVERYONE makes at least two people uncomfortable with the way they dress, you self righteous lil b***h! (rolls eyes). just b/c mister redelings was homophobic, doesn't mean everything he said is wrong.

"logic could be used to justify anything", (warren), s**t!

"Pick your battles" is good advice but some idiots pick ALL the battles. EVERY slightest "thing" is a f*****g "situation" for them. (rolls eyes)