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I could only drink tonic water me when I was pregnant

I hope the quinine didn't have an affect in my baby

My daughter is so chill
Like literally I don't know how she keeps her head sometimes
I've even suggested that she should apply to go on quiz shows...shed absolutely kill it because her general knowledge is off the scale

She certainly didn't inherit it from me and I was too young when I was with her dad to wonder about personality traits and such and such

I don't even think personality traits were a thing in them days anyway

I wonder what percentage of people who go into fostering and adopting do it because the actually want to give children a good experience of childhood

It didn't register with me that I was gonna be a parent when I was pregnant....in fact I'm only just coming to terms with it 30+ years later

And it's not easy

I hate to play the blame game on this but I sometimes do think it's to do with not being parented myself and I wish someone would have told me that being pregnant=being a mother...I know that might sound obvious but it just didn't really occur to me at the time

I think could still play out

I was at the doctor with my 10 year old son earlier this year. She asked him if he had any concerns about his health. He thought a moment and then said, dead serious, "Well, I have been having these hot farts..."

I think parents should be kinder to their children

Since my daughter was born things have got very beauty-focused. She's signed with a modeling agency and auditions for Toyota and UniQlo. My wife is a SAHM and I'm ok with her taking charge of it because she's a great mom who makes sure our daughter is safe, happy, and never pressured. But the attention she gets is unreal and I wonder whether it'll go to her head when everyone constantly praises her looks ... I mean she's 3 years old, it can be creepy when she has her own fan club in preschool.

Meanwhile this is affecting my wife too. She's beautiful too but has always been down to earth about it, but now she's spending more and more money on clothes and accessories for both of them. They seem to enjoy the spotlight. So I work my ass off to bring in money (which I happily use for myself at times too).

I'm sure everyone hates me for complaining in this huge humble brag but I'm exhausted. Is this going to get worse? Is my daughter goin to turn into a spoiled brat if I don't keep checks on this? How do you even raise a model and keep her down to earth?

EDIT: If anyone wonders why she's modeling, she was very shy before but liked getting photographed a lot, so we thought we'd try because she might feel more used to the attention. We thought she could do it a few times to build confidence, but then the big clients rolled in... She likes it and seems to enjoy everything, the people in the agency are all kind and the photographers too, but surely it can't be healthy to get this much surface level attention at this age? If she starts feeling bad of course we pull her out, but if she enjoys it and helps her feel comfortable with the attention she gets, should she stay? Am I doing a mistake here by letting her do it?

Sounds like great opportunities have come along but I get the anxiety you're going through

I hope you can find a way through it so that maybe you can enjoy it as well