Struggles with knot tying

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Does anyone else struggle with tying knots? I wasn't able to tie my shoes until 3rd grade, and its still the only knot I know how to really do. Tying neckties is out of the question for me, so I have to get someone else to do it for me. And don't even bother asking me about rope!

I know people with ASD often have motor skill issues, so I just wanted to see how many others struggle with knot tying and learn how you cope with it.

It took me a long time to learn to tie shoes and even now at 44, I'm still not great at it but I make it work somehow.

My sister taught me how to tie my shoelaces when I was in Year 4 (age 9). Before that I had Velcro. Now I tie them in in an awkward but functional way. Always a double bow.

I remember struggling to learn how it was done, but I can't remember how old I was at the time. I still dislike tying knots. I tend to feel it's a job for people with 3 hands and that it can't really be done easily with 2. The lace or the string always slips a bit and messes the job up. It works well enough I suppose, but I'm a perfectionist at heart.

I must have been 11 or 12 when an uncle of mine finally succeeded in showing me an easy way to tie my shoelaces.

I had to wear a necktie during my first few years of working. My Mom or stepdad used to assist me in tying the knots.

Fortunately I haven't needed to wear one in the past 30 years or so, and less formal clothes has been the norm. Otherwise I would still be battling!

My other difficulty was trying to drive a manual vehicle. I had to settle for driving automatics as I couldn't get the gearshift coordination right.

Lastly, I battle to cut things accurately or to wrap gifts, tie ribbons etc.

Oh yes and my shoelaces still regularly come undone especially sport/running shoes but I use special no-tie laces that are rather pricy but work extremely well.

I learned to tie my shoes when I started 5th grade because the school I started goimg to had a strict dress code that required loafers(it was a Catholic school) & my parents spent the whole summer before teaching me to tie my shoes. Before that I wore shoes with velcro & I wear velcro shoes as an adult. It takes me longer to tie shoes than most people & the knots are probably not as good. I only know how to make one other type of knot which is very basic & isn't that good either but I can just double tie to make it more secure. I've always had extremely bad handwriting as well & I have the pencil grip of a left-handed person despite being right-handed. My ways of dealing with these problems are by trying to avoid em. Most stores won't sell velcro shoes for adults but I can buy them online & I can avoid writing by doing things online or having my girlfriend write paperwork out. I have a tremor disorder that acts up when things with fine motor-skills or when anxious, stressed, or tired so that's probably some of my problem.