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12 Feb 2025, 10:59 pm

When I was young I did very, very well on IQ tests but was still very socially ret*d. Now, I’m older and not as smart as I once was but I’m better socially. Life, eh…



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Today, 12:34 am

I can relate, my best guess is that it has something to do with executive function.

I think that when we a children we can thrive intellectually and academically because our parents help us take care of ourselves. Once you grow up your mind has to allocate more time and energy towards basic tasks like cooking, cleaning, hygiene, etc. We autistics are not good at multitasking generally speaking, we are monotaskers, meaning we great at specializing on one thing while neglecting everything else. If you force a monotasker to multitask you end up with someone who is tired and scattered that ultimately can't focus on anything, because their mind is not designed to constantly be switching from one thing to another.

Anyway, that's just my two cents on the matter.



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Today, 12:46 am

KeepWaiting wrote:
When I was young I did very, very well on IQ tests but was still very socially ret*d. Now, I’m older and not as smart as I once was but I’m better socially. Life, eh…

Would suggest if you want to keeping making friends on WP then not use the r-word in your posts



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Today, 1:01 am

cyberdora wrote:
KeepWaiting wrote:
When I was young I did very, very well on IQ tests but was still very socially ret*d. Now, I’m older and not as smart as I once was but I’m better socially. Life, eh…

Would suggest if you want to keeping making friends on WP then not use the r-word in your posts


Well, in defense of the OP he didn't type the whole word out. Anyway's we all know what the r-word means, so really what is the difference between saying the real thing vs r-word?



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Today, 3:02 am

Canadian Freedom Lover wrote:
Well, in defense of the OP he didn't type the whole word out. Anyway's we all know what the r-word means, so really what is the difference between saying the real thing vs r-word?


How about not saying it?



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Today, 4:52 am

Nice post, Canadian Freedom Lover. As for the bickering about words, that’s dumb. Socially stunted? Is that acceptable. The r-word has meaning and it has nothing at all to do with anything derogatory. Context is important.



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Today, 5:39 am

KeepWaiting wrote:
Nice post, Canadian Freedom Lover. As for the bickering about words, that’s dumb. Socially stunted? Is that acceptable. The r-word has meaning and it has nothing at all to do with anything derogatory. Context is important.


Agreed



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39 minutes ago

I'll kindly expand your vocabulary:
Social development impairment
socially impaired
socially awkward etc.

I would also not use "dumb" or "socially stunted' to describe people I don't know but hey I guess that's my preference

Just some friendly advice, carry on...



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19 minutes ago

It's harder to police that word when a lot of us would use it self-referentially.

That's a slur doesn't mean that the slur doesn't also do the best job of encapsulating what the person means. The baggage the slur carries is exactly what makes it the most precise, most easily understood way to say what they're wishing to say.

A lot of people (especially when we're young) don't really understand the difference between intellectual impairment, slow cognitive tempo, developmental delay, learning disabilities and extreme social impairment, especially if the few people they've met who those labels could be applied to have more than one of those. They don't understand the differences particularly so their diagnosis is never more precise than ret*d, and once that label is assigned they assume the entire stereotype because if they could understand different things get conflated together under that label they'd already have the nuance to understand differences between the proper terms.

It's one thing to complain about people calling other people that word, but if someone gets hostile over someone else's choice to use it self-referentially they need to be told where to stick it and how.


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