Hate to be 60 and still single

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chris1989
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16 Feb 2025, 10:45 am

I work with a colleague who is 60 and as far as I know he is not married and lives on his own but I don't regard him as "strange". But I can't help but feel that if I was his age I'd feel worse than I am now being single because I seen to think most 50 and 60 year olds are married, have fully grown young adult kids and grandchildren and think that the social pool has long since drained away.



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16 Feb 2025, 7:00 pm

Has this work colleague ever said anything to you to indicate he is unhappy with his life? Has he ever said anything to indicate he would like to be a friend outside of work, where you might get to know his personal life a bit?

You can make social connections in your life. Having one person you're married to is not the only way to have an enjoyable life that includes other people.

I just went to a neurodiversity support group this afternoon. Lots of nice, interesting people from all walks of life and all (adult) ages. See if there's something like that in your area. If you fixate on only a romantic life partner, you're less likely to see all the possibilities as they present themselves.


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17 Feb 2025, 12:44 pm

ChicagoLiz wrote:
Has this work colleague ever said anything to you to indicate he is unhappy with his life? Has he ever said anything to indicate he would like to be a friend outside of work, where you might get to know his personal life a bit?

You can make social connections in your life. Having one person you're married to is not the only way to have an enjoyable life that includes other people.

I just went to a neurodiversity support group this afternoon. Lots of nice, interesting people from all walks of life and all (adult) ages. See if there's something like that in your area. If you fixate on only a romantic life partner, you're less likely to see all the possibilities as they present themselves.


No, he hasn't indicated to me that he is unhappy with his life and hasn't really indicated to me to go out although we went out to a pub with other work colleagues after a funeral of a colleague who had passed away.



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17 Feb 2025, 4:27 pm

I have an uncle who's been single most of my life. He's in his upper 60s & has been happy beimg single. He's into outdoor stuff like fishing, camping, & going to events & festivals. He worked in catering for a major hotel & is very social so he's def not an Aspie.


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17 Feb 2025, 4:40 pm

Henry Rollins is 64 and single. He's moderately famous, NT and reasonably well-off.


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