Worried ill always be the same

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I feel almost close to tears because I keep feeling like I am being to dictated to do certain things at a certain stage of life and I am not with a partner, and don't have a place of my own and don't really feel like wanting to because I'm in a nice house and don't want to be in some small flat. It always feels like the next decade is a deadline after which there is no going back. I am nearly always feeling "bad" because I'm still going through this in my 30s when by now I ought to be by now perhaps some with their own place, with a wife and one or two children which I probably don't want but feel I "ought" to because other people are. I keep thinking people will lose attraction of me the more I delay not looking on a dating app because I end up doing other things. I don't know how to stop feeling this way. It feel very conflicted.

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Might just follow some interesting ( to you) pursuit , and get on with your own life . If things happen, along the way, then they were meant to be. if not, then not ? but that time in your own hobbies or experiences or knowledge gained
allows that time to be better spent. Maybe along the way , you may pick a regular spot to have coffee or whatever.
And perhaps one day , if not appearing like a starving person for attn. whatever....and some attn: for appearances sake
( if you think that may apply to you)..someone may ask something of you? cause your a regular? No Offense intended or implied, But this technique got me out of a "Rut " on some of my worse days . [ just a thought bubble].