Should I stop using notes to prepare for conversations?

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I heard using notes for preparing yourself for a social interaction with people is considered to be masking your autism. Because I tend to try to normalize our speech when talking to people. And it's best not to write notes down and over think of what to say when starting a conversation with someone?

Last edited by Alrunner on 26 Feb 2025, 4:45 pm, edited 1 time in total.

or you could do improv, I found them super supportive and it was really fun

improvisation?

yeah improv classes, you act and make stuff up right then and there based on the theme. It helps you think outside the box when you talk to people

Making notes on what you want to talk about is a good idea.

It's such a good idea that there is a term for it -- agenda.

For what it's worth, I made notes about what I wanted to cover when going to the doctor on Monday for a routine blood test for my thyroid. Net result -- I'm in my 70s and finally got vaccinated for measles. Without notes, I probably would have forgotten to mention it.

Maybe even kinda brilliant....Was a time , I would rehearse over and over if I thought the interaction would have some value...After some time of doing this when I was younger.. I had used some of the same parts of what I had written down many times over with notes that I was able to recall the opening parts of the notes without having written them down. And when in a new situation . Could use that recall to open or reply to conversations .. Although often if I was in a larger group, I might run out of my opening script notes. And wasn't that good at adlibing.So , I ended up just standing there listening. Trying to figure how people could manage longer conversations .. Like speaking of weather and stuff.
Often found myself after a fashion going into the background of any gathering or just leaving.. Many years later
was better able to do conversations . And could engage people better and better.And decide which people,I wanted to spend time talking to. (Just a Thought offering )

I probably can't write down every full conversation detail on who I'm about to talk to.
But maybe I can just to write down a list of topics to bring up into a conversation. For Ex,
"What do you do for fun?"
"What are your hobbies"

I think start with open ended questions then when they answer listen to what they said and ask them another question or make a statement about it. Basically good listening