being bullied as an autistic adult

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Bullying where they act intimidatingly and sometimes physically for doing something off. I feel like neurodivergent people are more prone to for a lack of a better term "provoke them" Anyone else have similar experiences as an autistic adult? Any response would be greatly appreciated!

I was bullied in every single job I ever had, I did not get diagnosis until after I was retired. I had no idea how I made them angry and resentful, but I managed to alienate co workers every time, even though I could always do the job at hand. Sabotage and "setting me up" were common and I never understood "why" until after I got diagnosis.(5 years after I retired, when I was 68) I am sure your experience is common. Others will definitely identify.

We live in a particularly peculiar point in history. People are so thin skinned that any difference seems to trigger them to cry out against anything different. It is like the story of the princess and the pea except everyone is the princess and anything could be a "pea".

Earlier on I got bullied or found out much later that they were laughing at me. When I got in my early 30s, I decided that I would no longer get too close with co-workers but at the same time, not be too distant either. Hard to balance sometimes. This I've found has kept me out of trouble for the most part.

I very much look forward to retirement.

There is a social psychology thing called a "social breach experiment."

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Breaching_experiment

In such an experiment, the experimenter purposefully makes a social error, such as walking up to someone and saying "goodbye" instead of saying "hello" or paying for lunch with nothing but pennies when there is a long line behind them. The purpose is to observe the reaction of others when the social error is made.

Typical reactions to these errors are to freeze, to get away from the erroneous person, to FIGHT them, and sometimes to laugh.

The reaction is never to explain the error and ask them not to do it again. You see how if this WAS a natural neurotypical reaction to a social error, an atypical person, such as a person on the autism spectrum, would find social life much easier to navigate.