It is weird that I don't like it when people call me "young"

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On March 19th I will be turning 41. I feel middle aged, not exactly young. People still tell me I'm young but I don't think so. To me 25 is young, not 41. I feel when people call me "young" they are taking away how I feel about my age even though according to my hairdresser I have no grey hairs.

It can be difficult to discern what someone means when they say "young". For example, they might mean you seem vibrant and energetic. They might mean that your appearance is youthful. They could mean that they think you are acting foolishly.

The uncertainty may contribute to an ill feeling.

I can imagine how.

Like how dissonating the assumption could be, relative to either how one feels in the inside or/and how they view themselves, along with other implications like inexperience, and the lack of concept of respect and assumption of competence that came with seniority.



I'm still at a stage where being called young is flattering.
I'm almost 30 now, still being mistaken for someone half my age.

And it'll end soon.

Not because of what I feel and how much history I have nor that I expected more assumption of competence from others, but because of something else; that to me, young means there's something I can outgrow overtime.

That something that I didn't want to be true can be untrue, naturally with time.

But that never happened to me.

I can never rely over the "too young/young enough narrative" anymore.
I wanna rely on how much I can definitely outwork myself.

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May I ask if you live in a country where one of the beauty standards for ladies is youthfulness? If so, I'd assume they're just trying to make you feel better. I hate to say, but it doesn't make sense to me why you wouldn't like when people call you young, especially since it's often seen as a compliment by most ladies there.

I feel better about being called young after getting gray hair in my 50s.

I don't mind being called young as long as the word, lady doesn't follow. I identify as male. I also don't like the way that young women dress and act.

Who's calling you young? The ol' farts with wrinkles?

Young is relative. I imagine 60 is young to a 90 year old.

Don't know if it's weird or not but I don't like it either. Never have.

People still do it to me and I'm 46. I'm not young. My body aches. I rarely make it through the night without having to get up and go to the toilet. I watch Gardener's World. My car insurance is very affordable. I'm old and I deserve respect.