Don't feel like going out but worried I'm missing out

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I don't go back to work until next week unless I get a call to cover someone but I don't feel like wanting to go out on my days off. I feel more motivated to do so if I'm working or have appointments to go to or errands to run.

When I don't, I'm finding it hard to motivate myself to go out especially when it's still winter. If I were to go out I'd only end up going to same places I've been to millions of times before like the local towns and I almost never drive to places further afield from where I live.

I feel like a part of me must go out regardless of whether I want to or not because it's not healthy to stay indoors all the time and also feeling as though everyone else is "living" their lives to full because they are going out. I won't get myself to return to doing volunteering or get a second job. I feel conflicted.

I seem to myself unable to act on my worries and thoughts of feeling like my time is running out when it comes to meeting new people and a potential partner but because I've a lot of people (millennials) getting married and having kids, it's making me feel like not bothering because everyone has been taken and that I've wasted my time because I didn't have a big group of friends to hang out with which would help meet more new people.

I seem to think if we didn't have night clubs, festivals, drinking parties and stuff like that, I probably wouldn't be having this fear that I'm missing out on what people are "supposed" to do when they are young. I hear time and again from other people who say they didn't like that stuff at that age much but it still does make me feel less being left out. I seem to think there are other people who are like me and don't like that stuff but have more friends and still go out whereas I have few (one).

You'd just find new things to fear missing out on.

I am just sick of feeling like I've missed out on things before hitting a certain point of life.

I complain that I've missed out on not doing certain things like wild parties, clubbing, drinking and crap in your 20s, missing out because some of my peers are starting families and feeling the need to catch up and do those things whether or not I like it or not when I'm not in a relationship and now I'm feeling I've missed out on not marrying early just because I hear of others who got married early, had kids early and so on and thinking as though that was the "ideal time" despite people's brains not fully formed by mid/late 20s.

I know of millennials one was my stepmum's daughter who married at 23/24 and has been with her husband since with two kids now both 12 and 8. At her age that hardly occurred to me to marry at all then. Another I know of a cousin who married at 22 I think, had no kids and has been with her husband since. My parents didn't marry till their late 20s unlike my grandparents who married in their early 20s.