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chris1989
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12 Mar 2025, 9:48 am

A remember a young woman who had a 10 year old so she must have had him or her rather young and she said in response to people being "ready" for children, "well when are you ever going to be ready for a screaming child?"

My sister had her son at 26, when I was 26, it never crossed my mind to have children then and I wasn't really with anybody. I still feel no different now and still not with anyone but I'm worried that if I don't I'll regret it later on. It feels like people do these things regardless of really wanting to or whether they can afford it.

Hearing of people who had kids very young makes me feel as though the early 20s are the "perfect time" than later for both men and women but again at that stage during my college and uni years that never even remotely crossed my mind.



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13 Mar 2025, 8:28 am

Getting married and having children can be a gift. Children can bring a strong mission into your life, both for you and your spouse. Over 50 years ago, I got married and we had children. But the most important thing to know is that it is very important to be with your wife, by her side when she gives birth. There are many different types of natural childbirth such as Lamaze, Leboyer (Water Birth), and the Bradley Method (Husband Coached Childbirth). We had our children with the Bradley Method. I was present during the birth process standing right next to my wife and helping her through the process. There is a bonding process that occurs during the birth process. The child becomes fused to me. It is a very natural process early humans felt.


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25 Mar 2025, 10:17 pm

You may never feel ready, and that is not a bad thing. I know for sure that i don't want to bring a child to the world, add in the fact that i might have an autistic child too since my autism is hereditary.



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26 Mar 2025, 7:31 am

chris1989 wrote:
Hearing of people who had kids very young makes me feel as though the early 20s are the "perfect time" than later for both men and women but again at that stage during my college and uni years that never even remotely crossed my mind.


The prefrontal cortex is only activated AFTER mid twenties, so I'd not advise having children before that age.

https://www.iflscience.com/does-the-bra ... he%20brain.


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26 Mar 2025, 8:09 am

Bestiola wrote:
chris1989 wrote:
Hearing of people who had kids very young makes me feel as though the early 20s are the "perfect time" than later for both men and women but again at that stage during my college and uni years that never even remotely crossed my mind.


The prefrontal cortex is only activated AFTER mid twenties, so I'd not advise having children before that age.

https://www.iflscience.com/does-the-bra ... he%20brain.


As someone who became a parent a bit later, my advice would be the exact opposite. If you know you want kids do it as early as possible.


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