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28 Mar 2025, 6:10 am

Thanks man you're a massive help truly


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29 Mar 2025, 12:10 pm

My neurodivergent support group that I've been helping to run... I think it's time for me to take a break. There are little skirmishes every now and then and that's fine, but we also have this one troublesome member and, a few days back, she just went too far with her accusations and slander. I just don't wanna deal with this anymore... and it hasn't been even half a year since we got our other trouble maker banned. Ugh.



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29 Mar 2025, 12:11 pm

babybird wrote:
Thanks man you're a massive help truly


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29 Mar 2025, 3:03 pm

Fireblossom wrote:
My neurodivergent support group that I've been helping to run... I think it's time for me to take a break. There are little skirmishes every now and then and that's fine, but we also have this one troublesome member and, a few days back, she just went too far with her accusations and slander. I just don't wanna deal with this anymore... and it hasn't been even half a year since we got our other trouble maker banned. Ugh.


Are there other people who help run it?

It sounds like someone needs to take on the responsibility of dealing with the troublemaker. If you're the only admin, that means you, but I can sympathize with being burnt-out and wishing to avoid the drama that will result.

Hopefully you have some back-up who can deal with the troublemaker and give you time to recover. If not, as a form of self-care, when you return you should select someone for that role.

I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope it can be resolved without too much stress on your part.


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29 Mar 2025, 9:54 pm

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Kayla and Rolando owe me an apology. They don't care about anyone except themselves



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Yesterday, 1:47 pm

I always feel like everything's on me and I always somehow manage to find a way to justify this so then I feel like it's on me to make everything better again but I just can't
It's too late


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Yesterday, 1:54 pm

babybird wrote:
I always feel like everything's on me and I always somehow manage to find a way to justify this so then I feel like it's on me to make everything better again but I just can't
It's too late


If you care it matters. Even if it’s too late to make things better again.

The world will always need people who genuinely care.

I know that love exists because it’s inside of me. Do you understand?



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Yesterday, 1:57 pm

That's really nice and thank you
I think I do understand yes :)


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Today, 1:44 am

That I might even willing to let go of the autistic identity itself.
But yes, I am autistic but that's not all that I am. And more like I focus less and less over it.

That I might be done studying about it.
That I may no longer want to be involved any further.

Because, well, I'm not an advocate or anything like that, but I was put out there plenty of times. And even if I did well, it's not what I want for myself.


Definitely not just someone who happened to have been coping with hormones and chronic illness who happened to be autistic.


That...
I will have a second past internet life that ends around this age.

Just like how my first one ended when I went back to high school -- when I overcame anxiety and agoraphobia, when I overcame effects of being bullied by the time I was 17...

By myself. With too many leniency and online friends from past online games that kept me sane.


I'm willing to graduate permanently. Just like I did before.
From being this active about thoughts around autism and being autistic.

Like I'm past processing over it.
But I already knew the future is not predictable that no one can know what's ahead.


Why am I saying this?

It's because I'm trying to prove that the crap people blame was because of autism -- was all wrong and I was right.

And when that's over...
I will lay it all to rest.

Including the habits and actions I've been doing while coping with crap.


The advocacy stuff?
I'll leave it to people who actually need it.
Sure, I can support but...

No more educating idiots.
No more swaying zealots.

All because of the stupid need for human expression.
I am moving on.


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