I feel like not bothering with dating

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I don't feel 100% actually entirely giving up with dating but I do feel because of my age that my pool of people is shrinking because feel like people by their 30s have more responsibilities like work and kids and I seem to think I wasted a lot of the 20s not actively dating because I was never into going to clubs, partying, drinking etc and spent weekends at home. I seem to the shrinking numbers are making me more upset, anxious that time is running out and thinking that people will start losing their attraction to me because I mean I don't seem to see a lot of young women being attracted to much older guys. It sounds ridiculous but that's how it feels. Despite these thoughts I'm struggling to act on them and get myself on an app and end sometimes forgetting about it because I'm doing other stuff.

Dating definitely feels different in 30s and 40s, but love is so fickle, there are still plenty of women every day who are leaving relationships, getting divorced, etc.
A lot of them do have kids, but not all; birth rates have been dropping dramatically lately. More and more people are choosing to be childless.

It is ok to give up.

If I never got married, I would have also given up dating and spent my life hunting UFOs, would have applied for a green card and bought a block of land near Area 51 or in Nevada or Skinwalker ranch in Utah.

Anything is possible, when you have a dream.

I have heard from older people telling other people younger than them when it comes to struggling to finding a partner and dating that it gets worse as time goes on.

At the end of the day, I don't know who is 30+ and is married or not married, who has kids and who doesn't have kids but I still feel like the likely chances are that anyone between my age and late 20s are either now in long term relationships, engaged, married and now have one or two children. I seem to feel it was better at a younger age because we were all at the same stage in life as everyone else especially at college and uni.

I seem to also think if was much older, my chances would be much less because they all have partners, teenage or grown up children and grandchildren.

^don't beat yourself up over this!! !

Marriage and motherhood are both OVERRATED & they aren't decisions to rush into!

Dating and relationships require a lot of social skills. More than you need for working at a job.

But, I've learned how to play golf for a retirement hobby!
It has taken a long time for me to learn the balance and coordination skills to make a good golf swing.

It is that whole "failure to launch" mentality that is messing things up!! !

And the movie of the same name is CERTAINLY not helping either...