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Yesterday, 7:07 am

Examples: I have a friend for yeaaars, and then I go 3 months without getting in touch, text, call, anything and one day I just say hello.

Or I visit my dad and 5 months later I think, "Wow, I should visit him again."

I feel like a bad person because it really takes me a while to miss someone.



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Yesterday, 7:18 am

I don't think so, I'm like this with most people too.


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Yesterday, 7:29 am

I think this is normal, especially for autistic people and probably introverted people in general.



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Yesterday, 9:44 am

My experience is the opposite, it never occurred to me when young not to go visit my parents each weekend, if it wasn't too much of a bind, or every Xmas, if at all possible, but looking back, I've realised that I needn't have bothered; they didn't care if I turned up or not!



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Yesterday, 10:30 pm

Yes, I've wondered about this. I rarely ever miss people. Even people I was close to that have passed away. Not sure when it started, because I have memories of missing people.



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Yesterday, 11:29 pm

Me either.

But deep down it's less because of not wanting to be with them, and more like I have no hole to fill or is because I have an excess instead.


Also occasional but long term case of out of sight out of mind phenomenon.

And that -- knowing that them being alive somewhere is more than enough for me.


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Yesterday, 11:31 pm

Seems to be a common ASD thing:

https://www.reddit.com/r/autism/comment ... t_of_mind/

I'm a bit like that myself, though I quickly notice some people's unusual absence from my life. I don't know what makes the difference.