Why does it feel like everyone's doing the same thing?

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I seem to think even in my late 20s, despite having a slight concern that I was falling behind because I was seeing some people engaged and getting married, I still felt like there was a proportion of people of that age or younger who were still single and now just feels like everyone is even I can't see it or know random people's lives. It feels that way though because there are female colleagues at work in their 30s with two or three kids and married. My mum and partner talk about their 30+ year old colleagues with kids at work and so on and then that just reinforces the notion that I am "the only one".

I still feel about 3, 4 or 5 years behind where I should be by now. I still want to carry on with life single and go out and do stuff like people did before they settled down but I berate myself for it as though it's "not what I should be doing now."

I ask the same question too.
Except; not in a lens of envy or fear of missing out.

It's more like "Why does it feel like everyone's going to the same pitfalls?"
Because evidently, because they're doing the same things.


I relish the fact that "I'm the only one".

Because differences in priorities.
Differences in environment and exposure.
Differences in attentional currency spending.

I don't mind if I'm the only one who's not getting a kid and getting married.
I care more that I'm the only one who has more free time and not getting exploited for it.

I'm turning 30 next month. I do not mind being a late bloomer in life.
And "wasting their 20s" is increasingly getting common nowadays.


But sure.
I also cared "Why am I the only one who takes antihistamines and nasal sprays like everyone else, yet and still hadn't able to manage my chronic sneezing symptoms like everyone seem to?"

Turns out, it may not be histamine.
Because a broad spectrum worked. It could be one of the many...

That's why doing things everyone else is doing just doesn't necessarily mean it will work for me.
I approach life the same way. And sometimes I insist that way.

That, and my relentless urge to demystify behind the statements that "seem" to be.

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