How can I think differently around married/people with kids?

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It just keeps bringing back these thoughts that I'm the ''only one'' and that my generation's single-hood is slowly shrinking because they've gotten married or in long term relationships and had kids until eventually I'm the only one left. I seem to think if I was my mum's or dad's age and still single, the likely chances most haven't been single long term and have been or are married with kids and have grand kids. I have three colleagues at work in their mid/late 30s who have two or three kids between them, two are married and one is separated. I also have worked for more than 8 years in a book/toy shop where we get lots of parents with kids coming in. I hardly had these thoughts when I started, so why now ?

Yep. You're the only one. The only single person in the world. There are 8,062,381,745 in the world. Unfortunately that's an odd number so there has to be one person not paired up and that person is you.

Just kidding. There are lots of single people in our generation! You're not the only one. There are millions of singletons. The trick is to get them together.

I'm also the only single person without kids in the world, so there's at least two of us. :p

But seriously, a lot of them get divorced and either lose custody or the kids grow up and move out. The former is probably not the best company, but those people were around before they had kids and we just hadn't identified them yet. Regardless, there are single-like people at all ages.

As far as being around married couples and kids, I find that not socializing with them as much as singles is better for me. We don't have much in common anymore, so there's less to relate on, our goals and schedules are quite different. Others seem a bit upset with their lives and either become jealous of or talk down on being single without kids, so that's not enjoyable either. I guess maybe try keeping it short when you have to interact with them and staying away otherwise.

I don't know why you're having those thoughts now though. Any guesses? Do you notice any patterns or specific thoughts or emotions that frequently come up when they're around?