Innocent.....

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a patient once told me that I 'seem like a wholesome young woman.' I was appalled, and he told me he meant it as a compliment. I commented about it to a co-worker later, and she agreed! She said that it was because I don't wear makeup or a lot of jewelry or have a fancy hairdo; she said that I 'seem uninjured by the world.'

I tend to think of 'wholesome' as being like the uneducated polygamist child-brides in pastel dresses and poufy hairdos who are ripe for exploitation by those more worldly-wise than themselves, but apparently the most of the rest of the world doesn't see it that way. Maybe the same applies to how most people think of 'innocent' - not that you have done nothing sexual, or that you don't know about sex and/or abuse, but just that you don't allow such things to be the focus of your life.

Yes, that's kind of how I am. It singles me out so much, and yet I myself wonder at the people who make such a point of it. It's ironic that it's now slightly strange and disapproved of to not come across as having 'been around the block a few times'.

I hate it when people spend a lot of time and energy making up elaborate metaphors/slang for sex acts, and then laugh at you when you don't get them straight off but also refuse to explain.
I now have Urban Dictionary for when that happens, but... a lot of the time I don't actually care enough to go learn them.

If it makes you feel better, I just clicked into the Adult link of the message board, thinking it was for grown ups who had autism. Even reading the 17+ disclaimer! And I've had two kids, I know what things are:P.

Yes, have had these things attributed to me for most of my life. Don't get why, but I make the same assumptions as most of you all. I guess in the end I am happy to be excused from the tedious innuendo exchanges that go on forever. Like Ligea_Seroua I'd rather just spit the thought out and be done with it, but get the same reaction as she describes. Sigh. I so don't get it, but it is not the "it" they think it is, if you know what I mean.

Oh, I can do innuendo just fine. I used to take part in the banter because it was expected of me but.. there's always people that start it, then blame you for being 'dirty' or use it as an excuse for crossing lines.

Plus, above all I got bored of it. It just seems like a real sheep-like way to behave and I don't see why people put so much emphasis.

I don't think being tagged as innocent is a good thing in the least bit. The way the world is, if someone called me innocent other then a family member it would raise too many red flags. I would have to be very wary of that person. Many times when people think someone is innocent they see them as someone they can take advantage of. So if you don't want that you gotta keep your distance from people who say that to you. Don't befriend them don't even give them the time of day. Unless they're family that is, then you don't have much control over that.

Yes, I have often been taken as being less mature than I am, because of the less "worldly" ways I dress, act, etc., including no make-up. i often feel less mature than my age, too. Well, I am the person I am, and I am stuck with that person. Don't know what I would do if I was suddenly cured of Asperger's. The change would probably shock me to death.