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10 Dec 2004, 4:46 pm

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Im mean should I just be bitter towards her and ignore her then? I mean if she rejects me dont I need to find a way to get back at her?
That would generally be frowned upon, and it makes you look very childish.

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10 Dec 2004, 5:18 pm

If she rejects you, move on. Simple as that, dwelling on it isn't going to help you make her not reject you in the long run.



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10 Dec 2004, 6:52 pm

Trust me, 'getting back' at people never works in the long term. It'll make you happy....until you get fired. But if you want, you could write a really mean letter and rip it up. DO NOT DELIVER IT! Heh, I've done this for many people, whether or not I had that interest in them. I was mad and 'told' what I had to say without precussions.


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10 Dec 2004, 7:22 pm

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Trust me, 'getting back' at people never works in the long term. It'll make you happy....until you get fired. But if you want, you could write a really mean letter and rip it up. DO NOT DELIVER IT! Heh, I've done this for many people, whether or not I had that interest in them. I was mad and 'told' what I had to say without precussions.


What about if I wrote a mean letter to her and slipped it in her locker?


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10 Dec 2004, 7:25 pm

Expect problems simple as that.



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10 Dec 2004, 7:26 pm

No, no! LGB, do NOT give her the letter! That would get you fired! !! !! !


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11 Dec 2004, 2:39 am

LGB - PLEASE read ALL of the post, here and everywhere else. catffienated was extremely explicit about NOT sending the letter.



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11 Dec 2004, 6:42 pm

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LGB - PLEASE read ALL of the post, here and everywhere else. catffienated was extremely explicit about NOT sending the letter.


Oh. So I shouldnt write her a note and slip it in her locker then?


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11 Dec 2004, 7:57 pm

There was an emphasis on NOT which means everyone is telling you NO to giving her the letter in any method.



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11 Dec 2004, 8:44 pm

Cool, if you don't mind reading a few responses up, you'd notice he was talking about sending a mean letter to her if she rejects him. That is why people are advising him not to do it. But of course, if you wish to give him a reason to potentially get fired, than keep giving your advice based on not reading what is fully been said in the thread instead of replying on one post.



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11 Dec 2004, 9:01 pm

Could you please refrain from the 'hot' comment please? We've already asked LGB to refrain from it, please do the same.



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11 Dec 2004, 9:22 pm

Guys, a little word to you.

LGB has already been banned from one Aspie site that I'm registered to, mainly because he didn't listen to the site admin.

He's a waste of bandwidth and if someone wants to do an IP check on LGB and cool, I'll bet something interesting turns up.



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11 Dec 2004, 11:35 pm

MishLuvsHer2Boys wrote:
Cool, if you don't mind reading a few responses up, you'd notice he was talking about sending a mean letter to her if she rejects him. That is why people are advising him not to do it. But of course, if you wish to give him a reason to potentially get fired, than keep giving your advice based on not reading what is fully been said in the thread instead of replying on one post.


I mean Id be upset because a cute girl I like rejects me and its not fair I have to work with her yet I cant have her.


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12 Dec 2004, 3:36 am

of course you'd be upset, LGB, but what you must NOT do, absolutely not, is to retaliate. deal with your feelings outside of your workplace.

rejection is vile, but you need to learn to deal with it - it's about whoever rejects you and not about you. we all like different things/people, and perhaps you won't be to her liking. this does not make you a failure or a bad person, just not what that particular person wants.



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12 Dec 2004, 3:49 am

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of course you'd be upset, LGB, but what you must NOT do, absolutely not, is to retaliate. deal with your feelings outside of your workplace.

rejection is vile, but you need to learn to deal with it - it's about whoever rejects you and not about you. we all like different things/people, and perhaps you won't be to her liking. this does not make you a failure or a bad person, just not what that particular person wants. (my emphasis - dunc)


LGB - vetivert is right. Its hard, but you have to move on, and not see it as personal. please read and digest the advice you have been given here, except for anything said by cool, who appears to be a moron.

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12 Dec 2004, 10:55 am

duncvis wrote:
vetivert wrote:
of course you'd be upset, LGB, but what you must NOT do, absolutely not, is to retaliate. deal with your feelings outside of your workplace.

rejection is vile, but you need to learn to deal with it - it's about whoever rejects you and not about you. we all like different things/people, and perhaps you won't be to her liking. this does not make you a failure or a bad person, just not what that particular person wants. (my emphasis - dunc)


LGB - vetivert is right. Its hard, but you have to move on, and not see it as personal. please read and digest the advice you have been given here, except for anything said by cool, who appears to be a moron.

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