Pressure to have a relationship

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I agree with Mish. Leave her alone - if she is interested in calling you, she will. Can you stop discussing this now please as you have been asked LGB - you have taken over enough threads with this subject.

dunc

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no, I don't think it would impress anyone. People that like people for their cars are as pathetic as people that try and impress people with them.

No offence or anything, but No.

Could everyone please note that LGB has been requested to stop taking over unrelated threads with the story of the girl at work. This is why his posts on this thread have at various points been removed or edited. Please do not post on this subject again LGB - I am becoming tired of asking you not to.

Dunc

AND could everyone please note (even though i am merely a humble member, and not an omnipotent mod) that replying simply fuels the flames, as it were.

Whee. Welcome to my boat, Vivi. I've been beating myself up for not being involved in a meaningful relationship since early adolescence. I find myself becoming increasingly bitter about the fact that I've essentially spent the entirety of my youth alone.

What's worse is that the internal pressure only seems to increase as I age. After all, you only have so many years to work with, and I'd prefer to spend a relatively large portion of them with someone that I love, rather than spending the time hoping and searching for that person.

Yes, I was in the same boat as you Jay. Junior high school was a cruel awakening for me. I was never able to make friends like the others were. But what was really frustrating for me was seeing two other kids who coming out of grade school with me, who were in the same situation as me, "figure things out" and form there own social bonds while I was left behind.

Until this summer, I was always under the impression that they had just "reinvented" themselves. But know I know better, they didn't reinvent, they just found the spark to get them in gear.

At least now I know why I failed so badly in junior high school at making friends.

And even before then, when I was in grade school, my parents use to look down on the people I spent time with outside of school and would tell me "There not your friends Scott... There just using you for what you have"

And now I have to admit that they were right. Back then I didn't know any better. They would tell me "Well if you want to do this, you gotta do this for us..." Once my dad screamed at me for 45 minutes becasue I gave one kid some football cards in exchange for some of his and a chance to play nintendo over at his house.

My dad had found out what cards I traded, and he went into a rage becasue he concluded that I had gotten screwed on the deal. I tried to explain to my dad that in order for me get a little, I had to give a little.

He threw me up against the wall and screamed at me to "stop eating out of other peoples hands" and "to stop selling my soul in exchange for friendship." I had no idea what he just told me, and so the frustration for my father continued on.

I did that with comic books Scot.