How "out" are you?

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I don't inform my mother of the straight sex that i have had and i don't feel like informing her of my sexual attraction to men either. Sex is just something i don't want to talk about with my mother! Is this a defensible attitude in other peoples estimation? I'd hate to sound like a conservative MP or something equally as heinous.

Last edited by jamieboy on 22 Feb 2011, 11:05 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Out to the 3 people I trust most in the world. In to everyone else including my sister, best friends, and parents.

I certainly don't think that my mother is remotely interested in my sex life.

But she is most certainly interested in my health, my happiness and my life, and my sexuality is a part of that. While the subject was uncomfortable at the time that I was coming out, my partner is now firmly part of our family. She doesn't need to know about our sex life to know that he is part of the family.

So I think that you are in a perfectly defensible position not to talk to your mother about sexual activity. But if you wind up with a boyfriend, perhaps both she and you would be happier if she was in a position to acknowledge him. No need to decide that now--deal with that issue when you come to it.

I'm a bisexual woman and I'm about as out as I'm going to get. Like others' here, I don't go announcing it to everyone I happen to meet. If I believe it's important for someone to know, I will tell them. But some people find out by other sources.

One of the things I dislike the most when a woman who happens to be straight finds out I'm a bisexual woman, the first time I say something to her, she thinks I'm attracted to her and then she starts acting really off towards me.

To that I would like to say to any woman here at WrongPlanet who has ever thought that, don't flatter yourself missy, straight girls do absolutely nothing for me, I don't care how damn cute you think you are.

Thank the Gods most straight women don't act like.

I came out to my mother.

She wasn't pleased.

"How can you like both men and women Ackman? You need to like one and one only."

So much for her support.

Human sexuality is a spectrum, which is not constrained by such black-and-white standards.

Try telling that to your mother.

People and places I trust with Bisexual orientation? Yes.

I already told my sister and aunt, but I'm not takeing my chances with everyone else in the family. They will likely die before I so much a peep about it.

I'm sort of all over the place in the LGBT range. It's not something I talk about with people offline but it's not something I go out of my way to hide either. I'm kinda myself & people think what they will. Some think I'm gay, some might figure out I'm sorta asexual if they've actually heard of it. a few think I'm a a pedophile, a potential rapist or that I even like animals. I do NOT have a masculine personality, like pop music, seem kinda creepy have an offensive sense of humor & don't talk about sexual stuff much unless I'm making jokes about something. I don't think it should make a difference to others what I'm doing or not doing, what I'm attracted to & not attracted to ect. People are going to think what they will about me anyways

I have been ageist in coming out as I think that is the best option.
Anyone who knows me and is under 65 is aware, most people I am in contact with who are over 65 are Christian and I just don`t want to hear what their book says on any subject really.

I'm out, but it didn't make my existens any easier.

I lol'd. I had a same-sex relationship for over 2 years without anyone knowing about it except the other person (and her parents, but that wasn't necessary and my best friend, but that also wasn't necessary)

It was a bit stressful, but it worked.

I don't think I have the ability to pretend to be something other than what I am. I have no idea if it's obvious to other people, but I neither hide it nor shout it from rooftops.

What friends I have know. Family doesn't, except my sister who I told very recently. She's been really supportive and said she'll help out when I decide to tell my mum. My mum has told me on several occasions she 'hates lesbians' and can't stand them and doesn't want them anywhere near her house. Damn shame one day her fed up daughter is going to tell her she's a gay aspie. Don't even want to think about her reaction. Going to make sure I'm not living at home when it happens.

How awful for you to hear that Frankie_J, it is good that your sister is a support.

I was never in.... I've always been gender blind when it came to love. I never know to hide it from family and never could from friends.

most of my friends...some randoms...the internet....
think my mum is on to me...