Being tread like a little kid/incompetent

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Wow you think that's bad, try being almost 30 and treated like a kid ... I also look significantly young for my age but I think it has more to do with my diagnosis. I don't have many people in my life since I have no real friends outside the internet so its mostly my family who mostly looks down at me as well as my parents, and siblings who really don't take me that seriously.

I'm thirty and get this all the time because I look 15. Not much helps me at all, especially since I'm butch and don't like to wear makeup and high heels. A few things that do help:
1 Not having my parents go with me to things. Especially my stepdad. He's old and tall. I'm short and late youth. When people see me with him, they assume he's my granddad and try to figure out how old his grandkids would be at my height. At least mum is my genetic relative so they know she's my mum therefore it's a short family therefore I'm maybe an adult... I know this is a sad one and it's why when I'm doing anonymous stuff I'm sure to include them but it does affect how you're perceived.
2 Bring up experiences. You're only 20 and that's still fairly young so you can't say 'when I was at uni'. However, maybe you're currently at uni. If you are, mention that. If you've got a job, mention that. Mention graduating high school. I'm forever talking about my MA and degree for the simple reason that in order to have completed an MA I have to be at least 24, in order to have a degree I need to be at least 21, in order to have moved somewhere for my degree and lived there for 10 years, I have to be at least 28. Assuming you don't just live at home and do nothing in terms of education and jobs, this will help place you especially as you get older and the gap gets wider (if you're like me the gap will widen between how old you are and how old you look)
3 I'm sorry, not sure if this is because I'm not straight but 'you'll be grateful when you're 30' is actually bs. You'll be grateful if you want to look incompetent and pretty(/sexy in a weird way) and have men who like vulnerable girls still going after you. Don't strive for that vibe. I don't. I want to be known like a wise woman who's achieved something in life and doesn't care about looks because there's more to her than that. Hence why I'm not saying 'slap on the makeup for horse riding'. NTs don't like people to be too intelligent but having knowledge of horses for eg and demonstrating that can be useful in terms of how much they respect you.
4 bear in mind I'm talking worst case scenario and most people do end up looking within 5 years of themselves anyway.