promiscuity and autism

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I was lucky enough to find someone worth my loyalty when I was 18.

I would love to date a girl with asperger syndrome I think that would be romantic in a way I wish autreat would come to North Carolina

i have been fairly promiscuous at times in the past... maybe i won't share any shockingly specific examples for once...

due to family problems (i.e. "daddy issues"), i jumped into sexual situations as a teenager with little inhibition. i couldn't settle down with one person back then, as i wasn't ready for a real relationship, so i obtained affection and sex from a string of partners. although i did eventually settle down, it was difficult for my husband to get me to commit.

i found sex to feel intrusive and strange and wrong... but i did it anyways as it satisfied something that i seemed to really need. i imagine if i was single again i would still be promiscuous, but perhaps for slightly different reasons.

Well, let's not forget the fact that you are 20, male and probably awash with testosterone.

Now, that's not to say that every young man is going to react to those same circumstances in the same way (when I was your age I was certainly in a near-constant state of sexual readiness, but any inclination toward promiscuity was swept away by my twin handicaps of social deficits and a too-onerous academic load), but it stands to reason that at your age and stage your body is telling you in words of one syllable that: "it wants sex and more of it."

Life is not constant--what we want one day is not necessary what we will want the next. You will make a decision about when (or whether) the transition will come from your primary motivation being sex to your primary motivation being a relationship.

I am probably the polar opposite. Short term sexual relationships are akin to small talk to me... awkward, confusing, and unsatisfying. I like sex as much as the next person, but when it's just for the sake of pleasure, well, I can achieve that all by myself and forgo the excruciating process of meeting someone new. If I am going to put that much effort into letting someone into my life then I want there to be longterm returns.

I've been there, done that, even bought the T-shirt! But can you believe that for the last 5 years I decided to don't have any sexual intercurse and I found myself happier than before? It all started as an experience to find out what else there was to life besides fulfilling my daily desires. I think that eventually I might go back to being sexual, but I'm more than fine being asexual for now.

I've noticed that Aspergians tend to either be promiscuous (or at least have a very high sex drive) or else they are asexual (or just have little interest in it).

I think it correlates with my theory that Aspies fall into two primary groups: Sensory seekers and sensory avoiders.

Seekers crave the touching and erotic stimulation of sex and the thrill or exploring another partner (or partners). Lacking one they tend to masturbate much more often than the average person (and even use it as a typr of stim)

Avoiders are overwhelmed by the sensory input of sex. They can't tolerate much touching and much less intimate touching. They also feel very anxious in the presence of people they are not very familiar with, so they tend to stick with the same partner. Avoiders rarely use masturbation.

Not scientific, but I based this theory on Wrong Planet posts over the past year.

P.S. I'm a sensory seeker.

I feel like a huge slut because I've had lots of sexual encounters but they're never satisfying, which is why I always end up going back to them. I really want a boyfriend but every guy I meet in this god-forsaken town is just trying to have sex or doesn't want to meet me because I don't have the perfect body. Personality doesn't fit into the equation and it's driving me nuts. But if I do meet that one guy who wants to be with me, I'll be so loyal to him he would have no idea.

I think I am more faithful due to my asperger, I just do not like changes

if i somehow lucked into getting a suitable mate, i would belong to them until death us do part. loyalty is the highest value.

Not all of us have a rampant or frigid mentality, you know.

I have a sex drive and I want to have sex… but I fear that my sex drive will be nowhere near strong enough for any partners I may have, or that I'll be able to last long enough without fatiguing (I already have a big problem with tiredness as-is).

So it's not a bi-polar issue - there are lots of Aspies in the middle, just like in the rest of the general population.