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Could wearing shoe lifts be a solution to my height problem?

Perhaps lifts would help, but not too much of a lift, or it looks obvious that you're trying to be taller. I'm five foot ten (sorry) which is tall for a woman, but I do know that when I used to wear heels it made me feel more confident.

How old are you Jamesy? Is it too late for you to grow another inch? Men can continue growing even into their early twenties.

I also know someone who grew an inch and a half after taking up yoga and learning how to stand taller. One of the excercises he did involved hanging from his feet... not sure I'd recommend that. He was twenty three when he started yoga, and had stopped growing.

But you know, five foot nine is actually a reasonable height for a man. I think it's about average. You're not particularly short.

Try one inch lifts and see if you feel better.

I agree mgran, 5'9 is not a bad height at all. As for the shoe lifts, if it does help you to be more confident and to stop thinking about your height then i guess there is no harm in it.

The irony, of living with an anxiety disorder, is that one obsesses and hopes to change something from the state it is in, to a better more acceptable state. However because of this we forget what's the main thing that needs to be changed. The Anxiety disorder itself!! !!. Jamesy if you treat your anxiety you will find it easier to be more accepting about your height or anything else. The main thing is to get your focus away from things that are bothering you, and onto things which are more important, like your job or your studies etc. Sometimes that means accepting yourself, as you are.

I know it's not easy, and i go through similar difficulties, but it's something people like us have to do.

I am 21 years old (will be 22 in september) do you think i could still grow? People say that i can't grow any taller at my age and that my time is up.

I heard from a pychologist i used to talk too 4 years ago that some of her patients lives were in ruins because of OCD.

The bad news is that GAD and other anxiety disorders are typically caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. The good news is that they are generally treatable with medication. Folks with Aspergers have social problems because we are clueless as to what is going on, and make mistakes or are picked on by normal people, as we are easy targets. You might say that we are more likely to have social anxiety AFTER the social occasion, rather than before. Folks with anxiety disorder had difficulties BEFORE the social occasion.

what do you mean difficulties before the social occasions?

You have worries "just because"--the occasion may have turned out beautifully but you still worry--you always worry.

I'm actually a lot shorter than you, but have done things like speak before large council meetings in a loud booming voice (much appreciated by the audience). I've also traveled and attended conferences in numerous states. I've even been in a situation where I almost got run over by someone a lot larger than me in a department store, but have remarkably few issues with my size--except that it is a huge hassle to find clothes that fit--nothing in the Macy's men's department will fit. Nor is shopping in the boy's department much of an option once you reach middle age.

Well I can't help its a pychological problem when i have to hang out wiht people taller than me and it just causes anxiety and depression. it makes me feel scared and not safe from attack so to speak.

If was 6ft2 i would feel comtfable unless i hanged out with NBA players.

Jamesy, i don't think you're getting the point. Your height isn't the problem, it's your anxiety that causes you to focus on things like your height or poor social skills, that is. you need to treat your anxiety. ask yourself this question. if you woke up tomorrow and you were 6'2 and had perfect social skills but still had anxiety. do you think that you would not find something else to be bothered/worried about?

"Well I can't help its a pychological problem when i have to hang out wiht people taller than me and it just causes anxiety and depression. it makes me feel scared and not safe from attack so to speak. "

THIS is what you need to talk to the doctors about--they can help you with psychological problems.

I've talked to someone with OCD about eliminating obsessions by making drastic changes--it does no good because new ones just take their place.

So this is not something that i can tackle by myself without proffesional help?

There are lots of really smart people who can't handle OCD without professional help--what makes you different?

http://www.stuckinadoorway.org/forums/s ... post258381
I found an OCD forum discussion about meds--for some nothing else works.

I am not saying that i am diffrent from them but i was just trying too talk through my options thats all.

There is a big difference between an OCD obsession and an Aspie special interest. OCDs feel worse after obsessing--Aspies feel great/relaxed after doing their special interest--exact opposites! If only we could get paid for doing our special interests...