do you feel jealousy toward other females?

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I used to feel hurt, too, when other women would throw it in my face that I couldn't find a man. I was invisible to most men for years, and finally settled a couple of times for bad ones. They did things like stole my money, refused to work, and passed out drunk on my floor.
It took until I was almost middle aged to find one that treated me right. But he was worth waiting for.
Don't let them make you feel bad-better no man than a bad one. Some of them may be settling for creeps. Just tell them your standards are higher than theirs.

Sometimes I wonder if I should have joined the convent. Even though I'm not Catholic.

I know what you mean about many of these women settling for creeps. Many of them have men that are abusive or cheat on them. But some women don't want to be alone. Some women would rather stay with an abusive or unfaithful man rather than be alone.

I made the mistake of settling down with a real creep who was too much of a mamma's boy to work, and was emotionally abusive towards me. I'm just glad he didn't know I'm Aspie, the abuse would have been much worse. After getting out of that relationship, I decided that it was better to be alone than with someone who doesn't respect me or any woman. If some woman said something about me not having a man, I said that I'd rather be alone than with someone who treats me badly.

I didn't date anyone for 3 years after that, and eventually got with my boyfriend after being friends with him for about a year. He treats me far better than my ex ever did, with the respect I truly deserve. It's definitely worth it to have taken time off fom dating.

I used to get very jealous of other women (mainly ex girlfriends of partners) to the point where it affected me quite massively. Now I would say I only get a little jealous to the point where it affects me at first but doesn't have a huge impact on me. I have learnt how to control my jealousy a lot as I needed to. I am still trying as I need to build up my confidence. I occasionally let jealousy affect me though unfortunately.

To some extent, this was the case for me. I didn't fit in, which then led me to reject/ignore "my peers". Anger was my solution to the hurt.

Quite so. Wish I had self-confidence, so I wouldn't feel so insecure around/in relation to other people.
I'm equally critical towards men, women, most aspects of existence. In terms of jealousy towards others-I'm usually paying attention to myself & don't notice/focus on other individuals. Personal & political: am bothered by inequalities & unfairness in life-nature creates enough suffering, then humans create/perpetuate additional wrongs.

I get jealous about other women my age or near there who have kids or who have boyfriends. I also get jealous about woman not having stretchmarks or not very many in the area where I have mine. I get jealous about some being thinner than me because they're built different.

I feel jealous towards men and women...
Its usually a childish jealousy 'I want it because s/he has it'

i feel jealousy towards women cos they have boobs and guys don't!... how unfair is this...

I hardly ever get jealous of other women. Why should I. The way that I see it, is that all members of both Sexes are individuals, therefore there's no reason for anyone to be jealous of anybody else.

im not goin to cast a vote because its no longewr applicable.... but when i was younger i was very jellous of female drummers. to the point where i w3ould not listen to any bands if i knew the drummer was female and i hated seeing them on the telly cos a wave of jellously would overcome me... but now im a bit older 22... i no longer seem to have this jellousy partly because i know im popular as a drummer and i dont need to feel jellous of these other drummers anymore

I can only feel pity for humans. I really can't see any reason to be jealous.

I've wanted sometims to be "as thins as...", "a lucky as...", but I've never felt real envy because I don't conceive life without being myself...

I am not really a jealous person, but there is one thing that gets under y skin. This recent issue can illustrate it:

I got to another, non-AS forum where I'm an outsideer (of course) I've been a member for years, made various contributons, but I'm socially shut out. The "queen bee" of the forum has been there as long as I have, and is a passive aggressive, duplicitous, manipulative b*tch, for lack of a better word. She bullies newer members she disapproves of until they stop posting, give "rep" points to whomever kisses her a**, and openly trash talks about other people's posts. All the while, she herself hardly says anything of substance - it's all empty "chatter." Then she says things to her forum buddies like "Oh, you're so nice. Nice people are so lovely!" And everyone thinks she's great, even the people she's a b*tch to - it's like they don't even see she's being a b*tch to them. Except me, of course. I've called her on her BS and I've paid by being shunned.

I admit this makes me a little jealous - how can someone so blantantly awful be so bulletproof socially? I make one faux pas, and everyone's convinced I'm an idiot. I speak honestly, and they think I'm the b*tch, regardless to how acceptingly and fairly I treat them. Yet she trash talks, manipulates with insincerity and bullies, and they crown her their queen. Is there no justice in the world?

I feel slightly envious of women with balanced lives who can multi task.

Um, I get envious of other women sometimes, but these days its always about how smoothly things roll off thier backs (work, kids though i don't have any, cooking, etc). Whereas I'm so sensitive in comparison, and slow. I try to learn form them in these respects and put envy away. I don't have very much natural affection for children either, and that sometimes makes me feel like less of a woman, and gets my 'back up' if I'm not careful.

I used to get envious of body type, but I don't anymore. I've just decided not to worry about it; it may affect one's life in a lot of ways, but I know it shouldn't so I try not to participate in that.
Still, when I'm around a very tall woman, I feel weird. It isn't jealousy or envy, I don't want to be any shorter or taller, I can't pinpoint the emotion but I really don't like it. I'll often sit down so she can't tell just how short I am. Makes me feel freakish.

To be completely honest, I'm more likely to be competitive with men. Like, how much physical work I can get done in a day (I'm very small but very determined), or how fast I can pick up information on something like computers, setting up entertainment equipment, I like it when a man's eyes bug out when I pick up something heavy without much effort or pounding tequila shots to me-but I don't drink much . Well, I do harbor a lot of testosterone, even though I can be very 'girly'. I'm always with long hair and I love to braid it and be creative in girly ways like that. Making designs on my toenails with polish too- I love doing that.

I used to be competitive with boys physically when I was younger too. I could often keep up with them, until I started developing breasts. But I still was rather "butch" and wouldn't play the dainty little girl role. By 5 I wouldn't wear dresses or skirt anymore because I couldn't keep up with the boys in them. I remember the boys in middle school called me "She-ra" after He-man's female cartoon counterpart, because I always insisted on doing things, like picking up heavy things, myself rather than have the boys do it for me.

Even now I really like that physically I'm more muscluar and "built" than other females. My body image definitely gravitates toward of more androgynous ideal, because i like my hourglass feminine shape, but I also like the muscles. I'm particualrly obsessive about my upper body and arms - I want a breast reduction because while I like having a female waist and hips, I want a more masculine upper body. But until then, I just do free weights and resistance band workouts to tone my upper body. Kind of weird perhaps but I'm comfortable with a more fluid concept of gender than want society prefers anyhow. But ot get back on topic, I guess that's why I've rarely been jeaous of other women's bodies - I simply don't wan to look like most of them.