Where do you find dates and, eventually, relationships?

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I'm the first to admit I have difficulties with intimacy and engaging others, but despite that I'd like to date and eventually have a serious, mature relationship when a lot of people are just looking for sex. It's difficult to find that and even to know where to start. Preferably, I'd like to find another Aspie. Where do you go to meet people, whether it's the internet, groups or activities?

The fundamental problem with that for some (I'd think many) of us is the difficulty with physical contact. Going from my experience, it takes quite a bit of trust for me to even be able to hug someone. And I am extremely self conscious about my body (although I'm getting slightly better about that). As such, I'd only be able to be intimate with someone who I trust completely (or as much as I manage to trust anyone) and know extremely well so that I can feel comfortable around them.

Also, by opting for a monogamous relationship you drastically cut your risk of getting an STD. And to me it sounds like too much work having to subtly check a hook-up for any suspicious lesions etc. Not as much work as required for a functional relationship, but I think the return on a relationship is proportionally higher (having someone to trust and to always be there for you).