Any other trans-aspies out there?

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I think I might most likely be a MtF? Kind of always disagreed about being a boy but learned that one does not say such things so I kept it all inside. Lately I just could not deal with it anymore. I'm currently seeing a gender therapist to figure these things out.

I'm hopeful that I will get HRT before the end of this year which is most likely enough for now.
I might consider going all the way one day?

Yeah, same thing for me except not seeing a gender therapist because I'm 16 with a mother that oh so desperately wants me to be "a young man".

22 years old MtF here! I started hormones very recently. ^-^

I have Asperger's and I identify as androgynous. So, my sex is MtA. I don't mind that I was born with male anatomy, but I really wish I didn't look so masculine. I'd love to be either more feminine or else so close that people can't tell which biological sex I am. My partner can pull it off. I can't.

I know it isn't exactly "trans" in the typical sense (haha, typical, how ironic) but I certainly don't fall into the gender binary, and wish to transcend it...

I'm sure that you can pull off an androgynous look, most people can but they just don't know it! Just try long emo-ish hair, shave your body and face and experiment a bit with makeup! You can then even try low-dose estrogen if you really feel like it.

I felt the same as you until recently where I started identifying more with being a girl but I still feel kind of androgyne in my mind. I totally agree that the gender binary is crap and we trans* are the ones who will push this reality into people face so that things start to slowly change! Trans pride, yay! f**k the binary!

I'm a transman. I've started testosterone and my voice has deepened enough now that I pass for male all the time with strangers.

Not exactly sure...but its something I've been thinking about, hence my post in this forum.......thing is basically I don't really identify as a female, but I don't nessisarly identify as a male either but then I've mostly tried to just keep this out of my mind because I already have enough issues with people, without the crap that would come with if I started dressing male 100% of the time and insisted my family and others start referring to me as 'he' so I've never exactly tried to identify that way either unless not correcting people if they confuse me for being male because I liked being seen that way counts.....otherwise I guess I just don't identify with either gender and might just define myself as not having any gender but I am not sure the exact word for that as I have not looked into much about this sort of thing yet.

That's how I feel too I don't know where I fit on the autistic spectrum, but I know I'm there somewhere and I've recently been identifying as a transwoman, but it's just so hard to learn social skills all over again. Most of my NT ciswomen friends are just so empathetic and perceptive and I try so hard to be like that too, but the only ways I can are clunky and formal and I feel like everyone just interprets it as fake (or even worse, as male )

I did just get started on HRT today, so that's really exciting, but something tells me that the social stuff is going to stay with me for a looooong time.

Also to sweetleaf: Lots of my friends identify as genderqueer, if you want a term to put in google. I think that no matter what path you take, it's all really hard, but there also are really amazing moments

That's how I feel too I don't know where I fit on the autistic spectrum, but I know I'm there somewhere and I've recently been identifying as a transwoman, but it's just so hard to learn social skills all over again. Most of my NT ciswomen friends are just so empathetic and perceptive and I try so hard to be like that too, but the only ways I can are clunky and formal and I feel like everyone just interprets it as fake (or even worse, as male )

I did just get started on HRT today, so that's really exciting, but something tells me that the social stuff is going to stay with me for a looooong time.

Also to sweetleaf: Lots of my friends identify as genderqueer, if you want a term to put in google. I think that no matter what path you take, it's all really hard, but there also are really amazing moments[/quote]

Be sure to work on your voice too, unfortunately HRT doesn't make the voice box smaller, so you still retain the voice you have now so you will have to work on that.

I've always been curious to speak to a transman. But what about?

I am Bigender does that count

Possibly. Is that when you're both genders in the brain but not outside?

Bigender, as I understand it, is when you sometimes feel/present as male, and sometimes feel/present as female. While I was questioning my gender identity, I wondered if I was bigender, but I feel too male. Sometimes I feel like a more feminine male, but definitely male.

I'm MtF, started hormones recently.
Transgenderism SEEMS to be more common with Asperger, but I wonder if it is just that a lot of non-aspies are just better at suppressing their true gender to fit in socially. Transsexual aspies often find it much easier to come out as trans. For me, dealing with Asperger is such a pain that transsexualism seems trivial.

Thanks for the explanation. That must be confusing for you.

I have a close aspie friend who is MTF.