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02 Jan 2013, 5:40 pm

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I think its BS that size 14 or 16 is 'plus size'! & these models in layne braynt or torrid still look skinny to me!! !& they call those women plus size!! UNBELEIVABLE!! ! BTW Yes im fat(190) 5'6 but not like alot of ppl i've seen... maybe its just were i live(or.) but i see ALOT of very obese women.& strangely lots of guys are attracted to me. I geuss its the big boobs cuz thats were most of it goes lol! But perferably i would like to have a body like a hip hop model with my waist 22 inches & nice round hips & butt at like 44 inches & ofcourse keep my boobs. lol! unrealistic? i dont give a f***! also i dont understand why guys like a victoria's secret looking type a girls who have like no curves & hardly eny boobs & why girls want to be that skinny i'll never understand. I figured every one would want/like a body like nicki minaj's or Ice t's wife coco's.

Trust me, it's not BS. I was a size 14/16, but due to a bad junk food habit during a difficult time in my life I'm currently a size 18/20. When I was a size 14/16 (I weighed 180), the only place I really shopped was Torrid. I wore a 16 in jeans and a 1x in tops.

So yes, in the fashion/modelling world, it is considered plus size. This is coming from somebody who has been involved in the "plus size fashion world" for a long time.

I'm actually losing weight to get to a size 14.

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02 Jan 2013, 5:58 pm

When I was 24, and a healthy weight for my frame, I thought I was fat. I saw the flaws in my shape and they seemed magnified to me then. Now I'm 56, have been overweight and even slightly obese at times, and I'm older now so parts of me sag more than they used to. I see pictures of me at 24 and ask WHY the hell I didn't just ENJOY that beautiful young body?

It's a sickness in our culture that we compare ourselves to magazine models and advertising that shows us how someone else thinks we should look. It's a sickness.

Enjoy your healthy, firm body, enjoy being young, and ignore all the hype about how you should look. You will have your young looks for a few years, maybe a couple or three decades if you're lucky, and then you'll wish you had this body again that you find it so easy to find fault with.

Consider this a hug from your future older self.

There's also this, in the news yesterday:
http://healthland.time.com/2013/01/02/b ... mortality/

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02 Jan 2013, 7:30 pm

I seem to have a complete inability to gauge what body type I have. One day I look in the mirror and feel tiny and svelte, the next day I feel like a chunkster (despite there being no change in weight at all). It makes no sense at all, but thankfully it hasn't bothered me to the point of doing something drastic like developing unhealthy eating habits or refusing to put on a bikini. However, I am very confused about my body type!

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02 Jan 2013, 10:55 pm

Be healthy.

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03 Jan 2013, 1:40 am

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I wouldn't wear a bikini even when I was slim.

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04 Jan 2013, 5:55 pm

I'm a little overweight. Not fat, but I really want to lose weight. Guess I would need to lose about 10-15 kg for my ideal weight.

I agree with the last post though. I would never wear a bikini, even if I had the most awesome body ever. They feel way too naked and insecure.

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04 Jan 2013, 6:27 pm

Yeah, even at my thinnest I always preferred a one-piece to a bikini. For one thing I liked to actually swim, and bikinis were prone to disasters of sudden failure while swimming or diving. They might work for just tanning, but I never could get a tan anyway, only freckles.

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04 Jan 2013, 11:13 pm

I like to play in rough surf, and bikini bottoms are distressingly easy to lose. And in the pool, my little nephew is always climbing all over me, so in the interest of not being peeled like a banana, I need a one piece.

I find it difficult to differentiate between having fat and being overweight. At 5'3" and 114 pounds I am an appropriate weight, but since I have some cellulite and a small paunch I can never understand what my body looks like. I find my face just as confusing, though.

Absolutely the worst thing about weight is other women's reactions.

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04 Jan 2013, 11:54 pm

Like I was saying, it's not about weight, it's about body fat percentage. That's measured differently. Muscle weighs 3 times as much as fat.

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05 Jan 2013, 4:02 am

^^^ BAH!

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05 Jan 2013, 5:45 pm

I don't have curves, I have no hips or butt, so extra fat % on me looks awful, just straight up and down with no waist and a gut nothing at all like the beautiful woman reclining above. If only I had those curves!

Now at 18% bf I have a waist without losing too much chest and muscle (I've always found it easy to lay down muscle) that actually gives me more shape then I would otherwise have on my now leaner frame.
I'm 5'7and weigh 137

The added benefits are that the healthy (not obsessive mind you ) lifestyle I lead now makes me feel better not only physically, but mentally too.

But I think the most important thing is to be happy with yourself, and not be swept into what others try and make you think of yourself.

I'm happy with myself... now.

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05 Jan 2013, 6:07 pm

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^^^ BAH!

I find this sentiment offensive and dismissive of the diverse range of body types that women encompass. Body shaming is bad, no matter how big or small that body is. Your sexual preferences are irrelevant.

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05 Jan 2013, 6:19 pm

^ While I agree with the sentiment, I think thin is held up as the ultimate sexual ideal in our culture so it's nice to see a counter balance. I've definitely put on weight since I've been married, and it's always an underlying worry that my husband wouldn't find me attractive because of that. A needless one I think. :oops:

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05 Jan 2013, 7:58 pm

ruckus wrote:

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^^^ BAH!

He's not shaming anyone; he's expressing his preference.

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05 Jan 2013, 8:20 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:

ruckus wrote:

BlueMax wrote:

^^^ BAH!

He's not shaming anyone; he's expressing his preference.

How is insinuating that women who aren't "curvy" have the bodies of "10-year-old boys" anything but shaming? You can state your preference for more voluptuous women without putting down the rest.

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05 Jan 2013, 8:59 pm

Psshh... you'd think I made the GIF or something. Fight all you want, I was trying to be supportive.

[EDIT:] And now that I've seen how ruckus has a sexual preference for stick-thin girls, I can understand her strong stance on the subject.
(And that's supposed to be "understanding" not an insult.)

So long as you're healthy, the rest is purely subjective. Some will like you, some won't. That's life.

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