Ugh. On the subject of bladder issues and being a verbally articulate Autistic, I have a few things to say, and maybe some hope.
I wet the bed consistently until I turned 12. Due to my stepfather resorting to humiliation,
Like locking me outside the house in my wet nightclothes first thing in the morning, sometimes just underwear, putting the stained mattress out in the front yard, etc. Anyway, that got me in the habit of avoiding fluids and dehydrating myself, I still suffer from that issue today. My wife has to remind me to drink water because I will go 12 hours or more, just peachy. But the last nighttime accident I had was at age 23, when a romantic date ended up staying the night, .....yeah that went about as bad as it sounds. Anyway I had daytime wetting in class until 5th grade. Literally breaking my concentration and thus my filter of the lights noises etcetera was worse than wet underwear. And I despised being wet. So that tells you something. I still refuse to go when I should even with sharp bladder pains, even in my 40s, during movies, board games, etc, probably have a damaged bladder. (BTW late diagnosis at age 45, cause they didn't even know it was a spectrum disorder until 3 years after I graduated Highschool, so being undiagnosed I had 0 help, ZERO, ziltch) Anyway, I was still pursued by girls, ended up dating so many I cant remember them all. Lost virginity at 18. Been married twice so all that horror never stopped me, and made me a pretty sympathetic dad regarding potty issues. But yeah, really sucked, but time and neurological nightmares that leave you in therapy for eternity should eventually mean you will get better at it. No guarantee you won't pee in the bed your new girlfriend is sleeping in and you want to die. Just saying.
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