I got cat-called earlier.

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I would have to somewhat agree here I think that's why most of my acquaintances are female, I understand to a level the objectification and the unwanted attention while you are just going about your day, but i think from a males point of view, that is doing this, somehow in their own minds they are giving a compliment, amazingly some women do respond to this with a smile ( more embarrassment and humiliation i think) and if this fella has done it a number of times before he himself may have seen a pattern and interpreted the smiles in response as being positive when in fact they were not, and the good fact you flicked him the finger was in his mind just another law of averages where he didn't get the response he wanted, and therefore laughed it off as a failed attempt.... So try not to feel down hun! Many of the male species are a mystery even to me!

Gahhh, I know. I've had peabrains do that to me before. The latest incident was very similar to yours, only I didn't have a dog with me. They slowed right down to my walking pace for what seemed like forever and yelled stuff I couldn't make out - I didn't want to try - then drove off. I ignored them completely, but was left shaking and mad inside. And also entertaining revenge fantasies.

No matter how much people say "Don't let it get to you", it is intimidating and it does poison you, if only a little and in subtle ways. The only thing I've found that works is to get out there and keep walking regardless. I've never been hassled by the same guy or set of guys twice, so hopefully you too won't encounter him again. The nerves pass as the experience fades. If you let these incidents prevent you from doing what you enjoy, the bastard wins.

It seems you can't earn the respect of your male peers without doing it. It's pretty obvious women don't usually enjoy it, so I doubt its purpose is to impress them in any good way.

Considering most men do engage in this behavior under the right circumstances, and they still get dates and girlfriends, marry and have children and successful, productive lives, I don't think there's anything wrong with them. I know there is something wrong with me: as a hopeless loner unable to succeed at the social game, I've never had any motivation to cat-call women, so it took me a very long time to understand why others practised so eagerly and undoubtingly a behavior that seemed so foolish to me.

Meh, I was one of the least popular kids growing up so I stopped caring about this a very long time ago.


I would say most men have PRIVATELY made statements (I know I have in the past) but there is a big leap from quietly commenting on how nice a girl looks to a buddy to yelling it out in public like you are at a strip club. If that makes me a hopeless loner than so be it: I learned a long time ago that making friends is not my skill.

Of course, women can also take things too far: I almost got in trouble for daring to compliment a female coworker's appearance in a friendly manner, like I would compliment a sister. I just wish everyone could act like civilized adults and treat each other with dignity and respect but I gave up trying to figure these crazy humans out a long time ago.

I've had this happen, too. However, it takes a coward to do this. Notice they're saying it to women who not only can't really respond while they're driving away, but who are unlikely to retaliate much. They'd probably never mouth-off for kicks to a burly guy who looks like he might punch them in the face for their attitude.

I agree that they don't deserve to ruin someone else's day.

Right now, someone this did happen to was scared and she has every reason to not like it. When it happens to you, you can choose to enjoy it and not post. Don't be selfish.