Sean wrote:
My Grandfather was an aircraft mechanic for the Army Air Corps in WWII. The only two places he was known to be stationed during the war was Guadalcanal during '42-43 and Tinian in the summer of 1945. He was EXTREMELY tight-lipped about his service which has led to speculation among the family that he either had severe PTSD from Guadalcanal that he hid (kind of unlikely) or he was involved in the Manhattan Project working on the Enola Gay or Boxcar. After the war he became an Areospace Engineer. He was always extremely cold and distant. He was a workaholic, extremey tight-fisted with money, and the only thing he did for a hoby was gardening, which was also his second job which he only did to save up a massive savings in case of an emergency. In all likelyhood he had AS.
HOLY MOLEY, SEAN!! Your grandfather was on Guadalcanal in 1942?!? You are lucky you managed to get born, kid. There is no way I would EVER rule out PTSD in a guy who was on Guadalcanal in 1942. That was among the worst fighting of the entire war in the Pacific if not THE worst.
My father was a combat vet and a workaholic, too. My first husband was a Navy veteran who served 27 months on a destroyer in the Pacific, 1942 to 1945. Fifty years later he was still re-living that war. I don't doubt that people with AS are susceptible to PTSD -- but, from the little you've told us, you grandfather had every reason to be somewhat "cold and distant." whether he had AS or not.
For a real lively discussion of the personal cost of war, take a look at
Oldest Living Confederate Widow Tells All : A Novel by Allan Gurganis. The Confederate widow spends a lot of time describing how her (much older) husband's life was changed by fighting in the Civil War as a teenage boy.
Your grandfather has my deepest respect -- and your grandmother has my sympathy.
--Bobbie