Giving up on trying to have friends altogether

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I have given up on making friends as well.I believe it's simply not meant for us Aspies to have any friends or romantic relationships.I believe once we accept this fact,the better we will feel about ourselves.

I have given up on making friends as well.I believe it's simply not meant for us Aspies to have any friends or romantic relationships.I believe once we accept this fact, we will feel better about ourselves.

You just haven't met the right people...neither have I out here.

I'm not going sugarcoat it and give you a line of crap that making friends is easy. Know too for some NTs, it's miserable.

Anybody that says making friends is easy for an autistic person is full of crap. It's really incredibly difficult to rain near impossible when you have no social status whatsoever and can't help anyone advance their careers and social status.

Think back to what Jimmy said about Alphas. Omegas are out on the fringe by themselves. Betas want to be alphas and so seek them out.

Ah and we are the favored life form on earth. I can't fathom that.

Exactly.It's almost impossible to have friends or any other form of relationships when people have no social status at all.For people that have Autism/Aspergers,it's basically worthless to even try to have a friendship/romantic relationship becasue literally everyone dislikes us, and sometimes,even other Aspies reject us,despite of the fact we as Aspies go through the same thing.People with any other disorder/disablity have a better chance at having friend/relationships than people with Aspergers/Autism.

People with down syndrome have a better chance than people like us.

Completely agreed.They are more understood and people are not harsh on them like they are harsh with us.People also give them more chances and people actually respect them and their differences instead of blaming them for their condition.I say anyone who has disability that's not AS/ASD have more of a shot for friendship or a romantic relationships than us Aspies. It truly shows that is close to impossible for us Aspies to ever have a friendship or romantic relationship and that's just a depressing,sad, and harsh reality.

For me the biggest barrier to friendship is unemployment. I felt my friendships start to strain when all my friends started going to bars and clubs etc. I didn't have money to go to these places but also the idea of going to one was overwhelming.

i dont have any friends and have no partner because im demisexual asexual i need to be friends first and form a bond before i have a relation ship and since i cant make friends im stuck lol i try and try and try and try and try and then one day i just said to myself i am fed up trying i was the one doing all the hard work when i did have friends like the one always visiting and texting and phoning first when i realized this i stopped to see if they would phone or text or visit to see how i was i never heard from them again i wasted all that energy on people who dont care about me now im waiting for someone else to go first for a change im still waiting lol

It seems like fate was what made me develop the friendships I have now. I met both of my best friends from group therapy, but at two separate places. Every other "friendship" seemed to fall apart due to things such as going to separate schools while failing to keep in touch. As of 9th grade, I am no longer actively seeking out new friends, something which concerns my therapists.

The reason why I am no longer seeking out new friends is due to repeated rejection by cliques and friendship circles I have tried to join during middle school. I would "drift" from clique to clique, not making any new friends. I would stay with one clique until I decided that I felt like I was no longer welcome.

Not willing to get new friends is not my top concern, and, frankly, I don't care.

Some of my best friends throughout the years have been other Aspies. They possess the qualities I search for the most. Qualities like honesty, loyalty, directness, great imagination and sincerity.

Perhaps you are searching in all the wrong places?

I don’t even know where to look anymore.

I don’t even know where to look anymore.

You may want to look into special interest organizations. I meet people via gardening clubs.

Not everyone with a job goes to bars

If you want you can be friends with unemployed people

Although I tend to avoid unemployed people

Some of them do nothing all day long except drug dealing and flapping their trap


Having a job takes away a lot of spare time