Aspie having NT friends and socializing

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Are they NTs your age? How do you manage to keep them and be accepted by them without them ghosting or excluding you?
And my second cousin seems to always be out, a lot more than once a month, sometimes with one or two mates, other times with more like a larger group, and he is often tagged, like "[my second cousins's name] was at [name of bar or area] with [name of one friend] and 7 others".
I have a few friends, most are not NTs and aren't the going out to parties type, and others are older than me, and others are friends or relatives of relatives, etc. But I don't exactly have a group of NT peers that include me in their group. I did before but it didn't last long and they ghosted me and left me out, and I felt hurt so I didn't bother with them any more.

If my second cousin did get himself diagnosed (which his mother says he wants to get himself assessed) I don't think he would be qualified for an ASD diagnosis with an active social life like that.

NTs rarely want to be talk to or associate with Aspies because we would hurt their social status. A real Aspie is a socially awkward introvert with no or a few friends. A real Aspies has little or no social life and experiences difficulties in social situations through out their entire life.

Social skills can not easily be learned, we often have severe difficulties reading body language, find it hard communicating and difficulties expressing emotions. As an extreme introvert with no friends I rarely talk to people unless I need to and I rarely initiate conversations because of my anxiety issues caused by my Aspergers. I avoid social events and make some excuses because I do not like socialising with people.

I’m both. I’m excessively reserved and when I do actually say something I overshare.

A real Aspie is a socially awkward introvert with no or a few friends.

A “real Aspie” is someone who would fit the diagnostic criteria and who would receive a certain range of scores on specific tests (at least the ADOS and often the MMPI) administered by a psychologist.