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i used to be told my profession was masculine (metal fabrication).
now i'm told my profession is feminine (housekeeping).
both are repetitive, hard physical labor. i don't feel any more feminine or any less masculine in my current profession.

(also, hospitality is notably behind on gender flexibility. people who clean the main/public spaces of hotels are still often called "house men". for a time my job title was "inspectress" because it was my job to inspect cleaned rooms to make sure they were ready for guests. to apply for this position a person must apply under "inspectress", because obviously housekeepers are women..
recently, a visiting AGM has come to our property and keeps referring to the housekeeping staff as "girls", even though there are two obvious men on staff.)

anyways, gender standards are weird. i can't really apply it to myself because i don't f*****g get it.

About equally feminine and masculine. Although, it would be more accurate to state it the way I've always felt - equally neither feminine nor masculine. As a child I was not interested in stereotypically girl or boy toys, just in reading, drawing, and daydreaming. As a teen I never learned fashion, make-up, or hairstyling, but did not become a tomboy either. Never felt particularly attracted to either men or women, never understood why people care about gender at all, really.
I'm content to be a woman simply because I happened to be born female, but other than that it doesn't mean much.

I'm more feminine, I like girly things and am gentle.

I'd say I definitely lean towards feminine. I'm not an extreme girly girl or anything though. I've never really been into fashion, and a lot of topics the vast majority of girls are interested in or typical movies and books that are geared towards female audience, don't appeal to me.

On the other hand, I'm not super athletic either, and am more or less on the sensitive side (even if it shows differently for me than it does for other people.)

On some forums and things where it doesn't show gender on profile, some people have mistaken me for a guy. So maybe I give off a masculine/gender-neutral energy. xD

I seem to have gotten less and less feminine as I grew up. When I was very young I'd wear dresses and even went through a phase where all I wanted to wear dresses. But when I was almost a teenager dresses were childish and stupid. Now I wear practical clothing all the time, no jewelry at all, and the only time I put any effort into wearing makeup is around Halloween. Most of my T-shirts have Disney characters on them, so I guess that's feminine/unisex and I do like most cute things. I just don't see the point in putting on makeup everyday, then washing it all off just to put on more.

My hair has gotten longer and turned into a mop of stringy curls that is annoying, but I can't go to the hair dresser because of the MNXCXCFGCGHJNBJHBHMBb pandemic and I don't want to risk cutting my own hair. I guess by June, if I'm still alive, I'll look like an Old English sheepdog.

I responded "both": Although I firmly feel feminine (I am woman), society sees me as having masculine traits. Apparently women aren't supposed to climb ladders, love math, be fierce... etc.

My ASD-like daughter loves skirts, but at Halloween relates more to witch (think wizard) than princess.

That's a big issue for me.

I've always gotten along well with boys, like I'm one of them somehow. I make friends with guys easily.
I was far more feminine as a child but that changed growing up. Puberty was an awful time for me. I was very afraid to see my body change and wondered what I would look like in the end (it started early). When the changes stopped at around 14 years old, I was so relieved. I did not look that different after all. My body is slightly androgynous-looking.

My late father would sometimes comment on the fact that I did not dress very feminine and congratulate me if I picked something feminine, and those comments still hurt today when I remember them. I occasionally get called "Sir" at work (I work in a renovation centre as a day job and the kind of clothes I tend to wear there could lead to confusion) and it happens more if my hair is cut shorter. I feel mortified every time.
We used to have a serious rodent issue in the garden centre a few years back and I once picked up a tiny mouse I'd found to show my colleague. I thought it was cute. I took it outside and that man declared: "Ketsia is a girl, but she's not quite like a girl." I think he would have expected a girl to freak out seeing a mouse and never wanting to touch it.

I am not particularly comfortable in my body and I keep thinking boys have it easy compared to us.
It took me years to find clothes that look good on me, clothes that look classic and feminine without frills. I dislike pink on principle because of the girly stereotype and I tend to wear darker, muted colors. I like delicate prints and plaids. I avoid low-cut necklines, heels and short skirts or shorts.
I still need to be comfortable in my clothes and they have to fit my body type well.
I've always kept make-up to a minimum.
I dress nicely about once a week for church or if I need to go somewhere special. But it still won't look particularly fancy.

I look like a girl, feminine I guess but not girly. But in most aspects I think more like a man. Systems, logic, duty, lack of emotional depth. I have never understood my sisters or most any other woman and gave up trying ages ago. No problem with what they do - much of it should be admired. It's the depth and the drama that I take issue with. You need to walk on eggshells a lot around girls. Give me down to earth and reason any day.
No offense girls - I'm speaking exaggerated and in general. And I do like purses even though I only own a few.

It’s been a rollercoaster all my life and I used to not know why.
Until five I would demand dresses even if my parents hated it (the 80:s)but it gave me loads of attention for being adorable. Then I wanted my hair shaved and used my cousins old clothes and looked like a boy until 11.

It was awesome because as a boy I could get away with being hyper active and annoying at school questioning everything.
When the teachers figured it out I got into punk and became a lesbian.
Butch for a few years then more ”feminine” and bi.

I got a petite figure with very little body fat and high muscle percentage.
I still look like a cute boy or a woman depending on how I feel that particular day.
Most comfortable is when no one gives a s**t and people are on a gender bender.

It doesn’t matter how I dress I always feel like it’s a mascerade so I prefer to dress up as funny and colourful as possible just because why not.
Most comfortable naked and work a lot as life model for art schools.

Naked I feel a gender but depending on what clothes I put on I feel that gender.
Naked and having sex then it depends on who I’m with what gender I feel like.
It’s an amazing world we live in where strap ons and toys make anything possible

I’m very impressed of women and women struggles and I feel very thankful to be born in a woman’s body even if I don’t always feel like a woman or even a human.

And having an autistic little brother, autistic partner “trigger warning” who’s also autistic little brother suicided.
I think it’s “easier” to be a autistic woman. My brother is also used to be suicidal and my partner was until he met me.
I been training them for years to look people in the eyes and talk with pauses and things are much better now. I got away with being cute or silent or a clown depending on circumstances.
They didn’t they where expected to take charge and be more manly and always been told they would never get any partners.
Amazing beautiful dreamers, it is such a shame!

I think it's more that girls expect more of other girls socially than guys do of other guys. That puts Aspie ladies at a disadvantage with our own gender. :/

I am a feminine cis girl, but sometimes I'm surprised when I see others perceiving me in a feminine way, ie guys flirting with me. Because I've always felt genderless in an undesirable and inhuman way due to the way that my own gender has consistently excluded me.

lotsa room here for variations .... like boys ,, when dressed fem , i get it from both sides , without trying to appear attractive.. but usually just dress for the job at hand type of thing , but generally if just being out in public pretty fem ,, but depends on my plans for the day being the way i am usually dress for the most important issue , that needs attention ,, If am doing yard work can be found in a variety of camo ,, usually matching .. Otherwise if seeing the Doctor or dealing with other issues
in volving responsible professionals , just try to dress to fit in.. But am usually unassuming unless , i can percieve some underhanded ness , which, am better these days at detecting then i can be assertive. Even less than polite but that comes out .. whenever . Guys here do not like assertive.
But been stepped on a bit much . so people see a more butch side coming out . can relate to a somewhat squarish figure generally but , Hasnt hurt my own femininity any ..

I feel right in the middle. I love pink and glittery things, and am very materialistic. I love luxurious items and smelling pretty. Also like looking feminine and delicate. Why? Because people are nicer to me when I perform femininity. I personally would prefer to not wear makeup, cut my hair short, and wear baggy clothes all the time (despite my feminine taste) . But in social environments I like to avoid as much harsh judgment as I can. I'm already awkward and outcast so I suppose my girlish glamor (however much I can muster up) helps me feel less weird around people.

I'm pretty feminine in that I don't get my hair shorter than chin length because I've been called "sir" with really short hair, and I do wear makeup every day. I also paint my nails, and since I can wear nail polish at work, I do that since the uniforms are pretty much unisex as it's a polo shirt and uniform pants. I'm not the only woman in my department either, but I would still say that the majority of my work friends are guys as they're still the majority of those I work with. It's nothing new, as I've often had more male friends than female friends my whole life.

I tend to wear dresses often, but I hardly ever wear make-up and I don't do anything to my hair. I'd say I oscillate between feminine and androgynous with my clothing choices though.