help! teenage son being awkward during quarantine

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He means this thing:

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Yes. Is just to protect yourself.

I like this answer.

I'd like to note that my star student daughter has simply dropped all her classes. Thankfully, as a college student she has that option. The short answer is that remote, home learning doesn't work for everyone. It did not work at all for her.

Since high school is less flexible than college, you have less options, but if the current situation isn't working, try changing it up. My daughter also studies best when she can multi-task, talk to her friends, or watch a show in the background. Everyone is different; what your tutor did for you may not be the right answer for your son. Don't be afraid to experiment. Do be willing to brainstorm with him and let him try out some of his own ideas.

I realize you may prefer a simple protocol you can follow, but parenting isn't always like that. One-size-fits all answers do not exist. Sometimes it is in everyone's best interest to experiment. Allowing social media to be part of his homework routine; maybe doing homework on zoom with friends; could turn out to be a positive option. You don't know how it will be for him unless you let him try.

The most common negative comment I've read from NT children who grew up with ASD parents is that the ASD parent was too rigid, unable to see that the child wasn't like them and had different needs. As difficult as it is to break out of the box, I hope you will try. That said, your needs are just as valid as his, but be careful separating your actual needs from your decisions as to what is best for him. He's old enough to have a voice in the process.

The situation is hard on everyone and each person is going to have to find their own way to adapt. I hope you will let him try to find his own answers.

Most NT teens are on google hangout....does your son have access to internet?

I don't know how much this is going to help, but I don't think you're being unfair at all. The world is grappling with the worst public health disaster in a century, and the worst disruption to the global economy since the Great Depression.

I'm not that old, only 24 at the moment. I still rely on my parents for quite a lot, and I speak with them regularly. My mother remembers the events and aftermath of the 1973 oil crisis, the various economic disasters of the 80s and 90s, and 9/11, all in great detail. She has said that this is unquestionably worse.

I don't know if this has been suggested (I've only read the OP, not the rest of the thread, sorry about that), but if you guys are so desperate for some kind of activity outside of the schoolwork obligations, why not make yourselves available for volunteer work? Countless people are suffering from shortages of food and other essential supplies, and various food banks and other charitable organizations are hurting for manpower in the face of the crisis. If you're feeling healthy and well, I'm sure that many would be greatly appreciative of whatever assistance your family can render.

Excursions like that can also double as social opportunities. In high school I used to volunteer for food bank activities with my roommates, and we'd figure out ways to have a good time.

It's difficult to have a poor attitude in the face of genuine gratitude, even for surly teenagers.