NT conversations = competition?

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No and it really annoys me.

Bear in mind he has a lot of autistic traits and is 73 so we'll never know if he's HFA or not (wasn't a diagnosis when he was a kid - autism just meant LFA mute ppl). But he always puts the other side across rather than our family or defending/sticking up for our family.

Even when I dumped a bf for saying something racist about his own biological nephew who was 9 years old at the time he said 'well I don't know the whole story' rather than judging him for saying he couldn't eat dinner with a [n word] kid...

And when mum was crying about not being allowed out of the house, the neighbour had a go at our dog. I wanted to defend mum. He stuck up for the neighbour. The dog was mum's only comfort esp since the letter had also said she's not allowed to hug or go near any of us.

He doesn't get that we're his priority.

I told my NT family the bf story without any details in it and they said 'yeah, you stick up for your family not for their exes'.

I'm fed up of people thinking I'm under 20 so I give people a chance.

If they show they think I'm 20+, I speak to them with respect.

If they show they're anti-ageist and it doesn't matter, I speak to them with respect.

If they talk to me like a kid and talk down to me, I fight fire with fire.

People need to adapt to a world where you can't guess ages readily and should always speak to every stranger nicely. I'm not into being the one who submits.

A lot of these people probably don't even have first degrees so they should speak to me with respect. I'm not less than they are just cos I look young.

A lot of women are flattered if men think they ate teens

1 Not a woman
2 There's a lot of patronising nonsense that comes along with it
3 Not into guys
4 My mates who weren't ill in their 20s get to just go on T. I wish I could. It would age me.
5 16 is the legal age of consent in the UK. Most people think you're a creep if you're my age and fancy 16 yos. I can understand ladies wanting to look 18-21 cos that's sexy but 13-15? That's just a brat.

Of course "not necessarily"-- that's why I wrote "a lot of...."

Sorry when I said teen I mean't 18-21 and not < 18.

The age range of 17(+)-21 is considered to be a young adult but is also kind of like an older teen (sought of). Older women dream of finding the elixir of eternal youth to keep their skin/appearance like an 18 yr old.

Maybe they do.

I still think flirting with random people is weird though. You don't know the first thing about them except that you like their looks: not even if the feeling's mutual.

And I still think it's a gender thing not a sex thing cos I can't relate.

Plus I honestly look about 15. It's not desirable at all. Just leads to being patronised all the time, however I dress.

Only elixir of youth I want is: 1 however the hell it is my granddad can do whatever he wants, smoking and drinking wise and eating unhealthy food wise, be 82 and survive most things with the occasional health scare and 2 however the hell it is my granddad can have a full head of hair at 82. But that will come later on, when I'm in my 80s and want to have the health of a 50 yo without doing anything for it. He actually (apart from the hair) looks his age: he just get the health benefits of being younger.

And the thing is...

It's all about power and intelligence.

Someone sees me as a kid?

They see me as stupider than I am. I'm likely (tbh when it comes to the majority) more intelligent than them.

They see me as someone who's inferior to them.

They see me as someone they can call cheeky or tell off.

I'm done being in that f*****g submissive role. Chances are I'm both better read than they are and more educated than they are. Chances are there's not much in age between us, a mere 20 years rather than 50.

Next time I get pushed into in a crowd, I'm not apologising.

Next time someone speaks down to me, I'm reminding them I'm not stupid and I'm actually an intelligent, educated adult & they're thick for not seeing that.

Next time someone assumes I'm young, I will just assume they're older than I think they look: see how they like it.

If there has to be power play and hierarchy than I - likely the better read and more intelligent person - need to be at the top. f**k them.

Ok I take your point, but you are entitled to tell people "I'm a grown woman" in case they assume you are a teen. They will take you seriously if you are assertive.

I'm not though.

I just tell them I'm 32.

Well that's a good start, the truth out...

The problem is people who know my age act like I'm a freak.

"Oh my god do you know how old KT67 is?!"

"Wow but you look like a baby!"

"Can't say I'd blame anyone who'd ID you"

"I just keep forgetting you're an adult"

"You're all bairns to me"

Etc, etc.

Maybe it will happen less and less into my thirties but I've been waiting for it to die down since I was 18 and it's just got worse.