Made my friends angry

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It happens to all of us at some times. This particular rule doesn't come up very often.

Just apologize, give done indication that you'll try not to do it again and try to make amends in some fashion. If you do that, then convention is to forgive, although that may take a bit of they don't know your dealing with ASD related challenges with communication.

You'll likely have an easier time smoothing this over than when I made an ill-advised comment about the make up job they did on my grandfather because I was freaking out and his face seemed to be moving due to Alice in Wonderland Syndrome and being deeply involved with deaths in both sides of my family. That ultimately did get sorted out and I'm sure if you apologize and give some indication that you'll try to not repeat it that they move past it.

will do, thanks

Conversational topics are not all equal. If you think about it, if both conversation topics were equal then you wouldn't have cared which one you spoke about first. I get confused too about why people want to talk about things that I don't find interesting, but it helps to try and imagine things from the other person's perspective. Surgery is, regardless of how good the doctor is, scary and can have complications. Complications in brain surgery especially can cause permanent and detrimental changes in your friends life, and he likely wanted to talk about it with his friends to know that they would be there for him and that things would probably be okay.

I'd just explain why you thought that it wasn't a big deal and apologize for making him upset.

I understand, thanks for the clarification

The best way not to piss off your friends is to take an interest in the topic that they're talking about and ask questions about the topic at hand. It's also important to keep on topic as well.

Two things:

1. Someone's fears, worries, and feelings about a serious matter like having to get surgery are not "a topic" of conversation. They need to be attended to as if the person was bleeding right then an there. That person needs emotional help.

2. Nobody is obligated to listen to any conversation that is not of interest to them or that they don't have the inclination to listen to at the moment. (That is different from #1 above, because people who are in distress can expect their fellow humans to take care of them.) You seem to think that because they are your friends you have the right to demand their attention simply because you want to talk.